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Anyone else in the same situation with a happy ending?

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positivethinker · 30/01/2009 16:32

Hi all, sorry to read about all your situations. My heart goes out to all of you, you are all in my thoughts and prayers, hope things work out for everyone. This is my first time on this site, I have been reading alot of the posts and thought I would share my story. I am 30 years old going onto 31 next month. I have had 5 pregnancies which I have lost. My ordeal started in April 2003 when I first fell pregnant, which resulted in bleeding and no real explanation, Dr's think it was an ectopic which resovled itself. 2nd preg was July 2003, this preg resulted in an ectopic pregnancy in the right tube, the tube had ruptered but I was in no pain. It is only when they operated they found out that I was bleeding internally,one more day and I would have died. As a result of this they had to remove my right tube. 3rd preg Sept 2004, ectopic in the left tube, the pregnancy was removed and I was able to keep the tube with scaring. 4th preg May 2008 in the womb all was going well, but it turned out to be mmc, had a ERPC on June 18th 2008 at 6 weeks of pregnancy. 5th pregnancy Dec 2008 which also resulted in a miscarriage at 6 weeks, on its own this time no surgery needed. I have finally been refered to the Recurrent Miscarriage unit at St Mary's hospital and now am just waiting for an appointment. All I can say to everyone is I know how it feels and how difficult it is to go through the loss. I have been able to be so strong because I have a loving husband and great friends. I think about my loss everyday. I am a teacher and work with 4-5 year olds. People wonder how I can work with children after everything I have been through. I do this because I love my job and knowing I am making a difference in someone elses childs life gives my a great satisfaction.

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HeadFairy · 30/01/2009 16:35

Oh positivethinker, what a sad story. And how brave and strong you are. I don't have any experience of this I'm afraid, I've had 2 mcs, but we haven't looked in to things just yet, I still think it was just bad luck, but I hope you get some answers from the recurrent miscarriage unit and that you have a successful pregnancy soon.

positivethinker · 30/01/2009 16:48

Thanks HeadFairy for your thoughts, I am sorry to hear about your mcs. I wish you all the best and wish things turn out better the next time around. Will let you know what happens with me. Good luck!

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HeadFairy · 30/01/2009 16:51

Thanks for that, that's very kind. Esp as my situation is nowhere near as sad as your's has been. I guess you have to find positives where ever you can, and you do have age on your side. My friend has grade 4 endometriosis, and after 4 attempts at IVF they are now going for surrogacy as she was smart enough to have eggs frozen when she was still in her early 30s. She used some for the IVF but still has some left and will use those for surrogacy.

positivethinker · 30/01/2009 17:17

I hope things work out for your friend. You are right I am lucky that I have age on my side, But with these long waits for app who knows when I will be seen and when I will be ablt to try for a baby again.
I will oray for you and your friend!!!

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positivethinker · 30/01/2009 17:18

I meant PRAY!!

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HeadFairy · 30/01/2009 17:47

It's so frustrating how slowly the system moves, especially when fertility docs are always banging on about how we mustn't hang about when planning babies! I hope they get you an appt sooner rather than later.

Kym78 · 31/01/2009 10:16

Hi All,

This is my first post, and i am really hoping that i can get some advice from women in the same situation or have being through this traumatic experience?

For the past 5 years my husband and myself have had 4 miscarriages, i have being through the whole NHS tests at both our local hospital, we then fought to get referred to St Mary's and had another round of tests, with yet again 'nothing found'. During all this I searched on 'reasons' and did alot of research on NK Cells, so off we went to Lister as we had some cash available for testing. We had the CD69 (level 2), ana, aoa, X deletions and cystic carrier..phew! I have just being told by the nurse that i have NK cells at a high level, we await the rest of the results back.

Basically i was hoping to find out if anyone has had this testing done and your experience of it please? And your experience of Lister (Dr Thum) in particular

Thank you

Quattrocento · 31/01/2009 10:24

Hi positive - couldn't not post.

Our situations are very similar. I had two ectopics, one tube removed, three miscarriages ... More medical intervention than anyone should have in one lifetime. Honestly thought that I would never have children.

Until, that is, pregnancies numbers 6&7... which resulted in DD and DS.

Keep positive - remember the probabilities are in your favour. The really good news is that your other tube is definitely working - so good luck.

HeadFairy · 31/01/2009 17:23

kym, I'm afraid I know absolutely nothing about this sort of thing. You may want to start your own thread to see if anyone else has some experience they may want to share. Good luck, I hope you get some answers soon x

Daynee · 02/02/2009 13:06

Hi positive - I'm so sorry for all your pain. It sounds like you're still hopeful and being so strong - I'm impressed! I've had 3 mc's in the last year and I am 31. I ran to the doc after my 2nd one and now am waiting for all the tests to come back. I'm also a teacher (K-5) and I love my students but work has been rather difficult for me lately--not because I'm around children all day but simply because I'm depressed and just want to run off for a few months! I wish you luck in your testing and treatment. I hope it happens soon for you.
Kym - As I mentioned, I've had testing done - HSG (uterus xray) and a bunch of blood work - karyotyping, blood clotting, thyroid, etc. I'm still waiting for the results from the clotting tests. I don't know about the NK thing but I'm also having tests done for antibodies. I hate the waiting!!! I also have to take a progesterone test which I have to wait until day 21 of my cycle...c'mon day 21! I hope they actually find something wrong so I can have a reason and we can fix it and move on. Good luck with you results. At least you found something it could be. What will they do about your NK cells?

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