Etiquette advice please - I hope this is ok to ask here...

[boogeek]

It's DH's 40th next week and we are having a party. One of his colleagues and his wife have been TTC for years: there was great rejoicing when she fell pg last year. Sadly, she had a miscarriage. I don't know either of them well, him better than her - I've probably met her about 3 or 4 times. I know everybody is different but I don't know whether I should say I am very sorry when I see her, or just stick to thank you for coming and ignore it?

I wouldn't say anything.

I would definitely not say anything. If it were me, I wouldn't want anyone that I wasn't a close friend or family member to say anything about it. I'd feel like it was none of their business. If you two should somehow come to sit down together and talk about it, then that's a different story!

OK - thanks for the advice. I just didn't want her to think I was heartless, if she knew that all her DH's colleagues knew!