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Miscarriage caused by hormonal levels or partner?

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windmill · 23/03/2003 09:57

Hello, I had been trying for a baby for about 5 / 6 years before I became pregnant. I used to get really uset with every period and was afraid I was infertile but wouldn't see my GP about it in case he confirnmed my suspicions which I wouldn't have been able to cope with. So imagine my delight when I finally found out I was pregnant. However, I was convinced that as good things never happened to me I would miscarry or lose the baby to cot death or something like that. Anyway I went full term and now have a lovely 3 year old boy.

However, I had temporarily spilt up with my long-term partner and fell preganant with someone else so I then thought it was my ex-partner that was infertile. I got back with him a year ago and imagine my surprise when I became pregnant. But I had done two pregnancy tests that were negative before the chemist did a positive one so I bought another and it was very feint, whereas the one I'd done at an earlier date with my first pregnancy was really dark. I miscarried at 7 weeks.

In December I found out I did another test when I was a weeks late. I thought it was negative, then a few hours later I got it out the bin and it was a very faint positive; another test of a different kind a few days later was also a very feint positive. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks.

I have heard that sometimes both a man and a couple can each produce babies that are carried to term but not by each other, although this is very rare. I am worried that this might be the case, in which case I don't know how my partner will feel. On the other hand, I am wondering if the cause was lack of pregnancy hormone which is common, especially as the dots or lines on the tests are always darker as pregnancy progresses because the hormone levels are higher later on. But if I have hormonal problems wouldn't they have caused a miscarriage with my first child?

Has anybody else had similar experiences or heard about similar cases?

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Ghosty · 23/03/2003 10:17

windmill ... I am sorry that you are having a bad time ... I know what it is like to have a miscarriage and you have all my thoughts with you at the moment.
I'm afraid that I don't know how to help you on the medical part of your question tho' as I know very little about that sort of stuff. There will be people on mumsnet who will have some good advice for you though.
I did know a lady at work years ago who had numerous miscarriages with her husband and after tests it was found that they had a bizarre mix of genes that meant that carrying a baby to full term was going to be difficult ... apparently they were both carriers of certain gene and it was a million to one chance of two people carrying that gene to get together - had they married someone else they would not have had those problems .... They DID eventually have two healthy children tho' (naturally - without IVF or anything) but I don't know how long it took .... She told me that it was very very rare for that to happen though .....
Have you talked to your doctor about it? What does he/she say?

Ghosty · 23/03/2003 10:21

BTW I have a close friend who had two miscarriages before having a baby and now she is 30 weeks pregnant with her second ... all with the same bloke.
And I had an unplanned pregnancy with my DH that resulted in DS and then had a miscarriage at 12 weeks ... still with DH - so you just can't tell ...
Sorry ... not very helpful so I hope someone can help you more ...
Hugs {{{{{{}}}}}}

lucy123 · 23/03/2003 10:25

Windmill - I can see why you're worrying - but even two miscarriages (especially early ones) do not necessarily suggest a problem. Since you have already had a baby with this man, I don't think you have the type of compatability-fertility problem, or permanent hormone imbalance you suggest.

Early miscarriages are very very common and most of the time the women don't even know they are pregnant. Also pregnancy tests often produce a feint positive after they have been exposed to the air for a while (which is why they tell you to read them within a certain time) so it is possible that you weren't pregnant in December - your period could have been late for other reasons.

I know its difficult, but I wouldn't worry. Perhaps a visit to your doctor would set your mind at rest?

Ghosty · 23/03/2003 10:33

Lucy123 .. I think windmill said that her son was conceived when she was with someone else ... but I may be wrong ... but you are right to say she shouldn't worry too much ... although mcs are awful anyway ....

lucy123 · 23/03/2003 10:40

winfmill - I think you'll have to sort this out!

but yes, ghosty, that was a bit of a cold reply wasn't it? (guess who didn't get anything for mother's day? ) Windmill - I don't mean to belittle your pain - m/cs are still very upsetting even if they are early ones and even though they are common. Best of luck next time (and try not to worry - I had 1 v early suspected m/c and an m/c at 16 weeks before conceiving dd. It doesn't mean you have fertility problems).

Ghosty · 23/03/2003 10:45

Oh lucy123 .. I wasn't having a go ... I think you are lovely ... I think your answer was great ... look at me - am paranoid in light of other threads ...
Windmill ... just to clarify ...your DS - is he the son of your current partner or your ex? And is it your current partner that you have had the mcs with?

Ghosty · 23/03/2003 10:47

Oh and Lucy123 ... you did get something for mother's day ... look a and a hug {{{}}} from Ghosty XXXX
It isn't mother's day in NZ so thanks for reminding me that I need to phone my mum!!!!

lucy123 · 23/03/2003 11:09

thanks Ghosty - didn't really think you were having a go. Cyberhugs to you and to Windmill!

emsiewill · 23/03/2003 11:15

Don't want to detract from the thread, but it's not UK Mother's day until next Sunday - I presume that's where your mum is, Ghosty? Lucy123, you're not in the UK, are you? Is it Mother's Day where you are?

Ghosty · 23/03/2003 11:22

Cheers emsiewill ... what a wally I am ... I knew that it was next week!!! Never mind ... might still ring my mum anyway to tell her how much I miss her ...

windmill · 23/03/2003 11:35

Thanks everyone for your replies. Just to clarify, my son is from my ex-partner and I have miscarried twice with my current partner. I definitely was pregnant both times; they weren't just late periods. I had scans and urine tests done at the hospitals both times which showed that I was pregnan and was miscarrying but because I have only had two, they obviously weren't prepared to look into the cause and wouldn't tell me evry much at all.

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bayleaf · 23/03/2003 12:56

Windmill _ I had 2 early miscarriages ( and a later one but that ahd a different cause) before dd - and although they don't usualy investigate until you've had 3 I kicked up a fuss so they did - but they still came to the original conclusion, ie that it was just ''one of those things'' nothing ''wrong'' as such, just bad luck that it'd happened to me twice - and the statistics they quoted were really high for someone having 2 miscarriages - something like 1 in 32.
Do talk to your GP if you're worried but it is SUCH a small probability that it's not worth worrying about if you can at all help it.

lucy123 · 23/03/2003 13:20

It's not mothers day? better stop my housework strike then! (and I woke my mum up this morning). Mothers day in Spain is a different day altogether - I usually follow UK practice on it. How embarrassing.

Windmill - I got that wrong too then. But even so, I still wouldn't worry - you've probably just been unlucky.

mieow · 27/03/2003 07:24

Hi, I had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks, after DS, The baby had stopped growing and died at about 5 weeks but it took my hormones that long to stop supporting the pregnany. I had a postive result at about 4 1/2 weeks, but started to bleed at 8 weeks, when to the hospital where they repeated the test and it was negative, I lost the baby the next day.

I went on to have 2 daughters. The pain does ease. I still think about the one that nearly was, but not as much now.

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