Pregnant after three miscarriages

[cornflakegirl]

I'm currently 7 weeks pregnant, having had three miscarriages in the last 6 months. I had a scan at the EPU yesterday, which confirmed everything is currently okay. After the scan, the sonographer told me to book in with my midwife - from a previous conversation with a doctor at the EPU I was kind of expecting that they would be more involved with this pregnancy, but I didn't feel confident enough to challenge the sonographer.

So, when I get my midwife appointment, what should I be asking for? I've read Professor Reagan's book on miscarriage, where she says that for (unexplained) miscarriage the most effective treatment is supportive care and regular scans. So I want that! But I also feel that it's probably some sort of placebo effect that doesn't work quite the same if you have to wring it out of the local EPU.

So basically, I don't really know what to expect. Or what I want - except for someone to make sure that this baby makes it. Anyone got any advice?

Well, the reassurance from last Friday's scan has pretty much faded now. And my mw appointment isn't for 10 days. So I suspect it's downhill from here!

cornflake girl, that's what I was saying! Scans are great for that day and maybe a day or two after but then the dreadful fear and worry start creeping in.

It's a helish time and I'm afraid nothing can make it less helish between appointments

Aw, I hope you don't feel too anxious, though I know it's really hard to think positively at this stage.

In answer to your question from Wednesday, no I only turned up once with 'bleeding' with pg#3, and as it turned out in that case when I had that scan (about 10 weeks I think) it was a missed mc so of course I didn't have another except to check the mc was complete.

I was told then I could just turn up (they had my notes) if I got pg again, so I did, and was given regular scans from weeks 6-12 at the EPU.

I don't know what your local EPU is like but could you just show up and ask for a scan to help put your mind at rest before your mw appt? Given your history I'm sure they'd be understanding.

As kittywise said, a scan doesn't do much except let you know what's happening, but of course you want to know either way don't you.

Good luck.

My EPU are great, but have never suggested regular scans. I think I will call them and see if I can get a scan this week. This pregnancy is now further along than any of the previous three made it, and I'm starting to get my hopes up. If they're going to be crushed, I'd rather know sooner than later.

Thanks for replying - it's really helpful to know that I'm not being unreasonably paranoid.

I have also had three mmc's in the last 2 years (6/7/8/weeks). I had all the tests (twice) and they found nothing wrong. The consultant has put me on aspirin and cyclogest pesseries. I am 7+3 now and just hoping I don't get the light brown spot I get in week 10 to show the mmc.

Trying to be positive but it is very hard. My consultant said to phone him when I wanted a scan but have chickened out so far because I had one last time at 6 weeks (lied and said i had pains) and there was a heartbeat but then still had mmc at 8 weeks. Thought I might ask for one about 9-10 weeks. This seemed a good plan a week ago but each day is so long and am now wondering whether I can wait another 2 weeks.

Imagining all sorts of aches and pains, watching for pregnancy signs to disappear, etc. Sorry to moan on but it sounds like everyone on this thread will understand! They haven't mentioned regular scans to me just the one 'on demand' for reassurance.

I went private to have the initial blood tests then reverted back to NHS with same consultant and kind of queue jumped then as a result of already being on his books. It was a 6 month wait for initial appointment in our hospital on NHS. GP friend told me to go private - best advice I could have had.

Good luck to everyone in this thread - here's to healthy pregnancy's.

teachertalk - congrats on the pregnancy. I completely know what you mean about latching on to every ache - I've been worrying today that my morning sickness is lessening. Stupid brain!

The Pregnancy after Miscarriage thread (in the Pregnancy topic) is also a great place to moan reassure each other - bit faster moving than this one!

Good luck to both of you, am keeping my fingers crossed for an uneventful 8 months for you xx