Hello am a newbie.

[Frannie4444]

Hello. am new here and new to boards. so apologies if i dont get any of the shorthand right ;-)

a friend recommended this board said it may help as i feel terribly alone. i have just suffered my 2nd miscarriage within 8 months after fertility treatment. my 8 week scan showed a heartbeat and by 11 and a half weeks it had gone. im having trouble understanding why my body didnt 'tell' me earlier and let me carry around something with all my hopes and dreams too when it wasnt meant to be. i had such a traumatic first MC due to nature taking over and taking me to a&e and was treated just badly there. im so scared about trying again. please someone give me hope that they too have gone through this and been successful. thanks so much xx

Hi Frannie

I'm sorry you are going through this

I don't have any experience of this but wanted to post so someone else would see it and be more helpfull...

MN is great for support and advice.

Hi Frannie
How horrendous for you!
I had a miscarriage in July 07.
You need to just rest and treat yourself, get pampered you deserve it!
After the initial heartache I decided I needed to put my energy into something positive, as I was feeling it would never happen.I got Zita Wests' book on fertility which is full of fantastic advice,fertility foods etc and really helped me.(it gave me something positive to focus on anyway as time seems to stand still between cycles!!!!)
Took us two and a half years in total but I now have a healthy baby girl of 6 months. It will happen I am sure. Thinking of you.

Hello dear Frannie,
firstly i am so very sorry that you are going through this, i can feel the sadness in your post, but dont feel alone as there is always someone on here ready to listen and share their experiences with you, both good and not so good. Sorry you were treated badly at the hospital, some are just bloody awful at not knowing how to treat people with mc's, sometimes you will find a really supportive nurse etc who really does care aswhere others haven't got a clue!!!! After several mc's and a mmc i still hold to my dreams that i will one day be a mummy, aslong as you keep that dream there's always a chance it will happen. There are many successful stories on here so dont lose hope. Sending you gentle hugs. Takecare and keep talking, it does help and get easier my lovely. Ps, welcome by the way.
XXX.

Frannie, I'm so sorry to hear your story and how you are feeling.

I m/c twins in April 2006 after my 1st IVF cycle - the m/c was horrendous as I had a D&C but they didn't remove everything and I passed one of the babies a few days later .

I then m/c our 2nd pg (I conceived naturally during my 2nd IVF cycle) six months later - again a D&C, but a little more straightforward.

Our 3rd IVF resulted in pg again - I bled constantly for the 1st 12 weeks, but the pg continued successfully and I now have a beautiful 6 1/2 mth old son.

I'm 36 btw, in case that's relevant too.

I hope you find the strength to try again, but meanwhile give yourself time to heal and maybe contact:

The Miscarriage Association

id like to thank you all so much for your kind words and stories. this has felt like the loneliest thing in the world and you guys have helped me feel more positive and well....less lonely i guess. I understand the 'logical' side of a mc - your body dealing with something that isnt quite right for you - but emotionally its just so cruel and nothing can quite prepare you for the depth of feelings you go through.

i am trying to stay positive and i hope one day it will happen for us. my dh (that's 'dear husband' - right?! told you i was new) has children already which makes it doubly hard.

so thank you again. i will keep checking in and as i get stronger perhaps i can help some others. anyway happy new year to you all - you dont know how much you have helped.

F