3rd mc in 5 months - what to do now?

[straw66]

had my 3rd mc last week and am feeling v down now. 1st and last were very early on - just a couple of days after doing the test - 2nd was after 9wks, and was a mmc.
am now feeling v down, feel like everyone i speak to is pg! what happens now? docs at the hospital seem to think it's all coincidence and don't need more tests...
am completely new to this, so hope i get the lingo right!

So sorry to hear our news

Being down is natural - wallow in it, eat choc, drink wine - your hormones take time to settle down.

I think the rule of thumb is that after 3 mc's, then most of the time you can get tests done.

I would definitely go and see your GP to talk it through. The early miscarriages are probably an embryo that failed to implant - there might be reasons for that relating to your cycle (if the period is short between ovulating and your period) or hormone levels - there is lots they can look for that is quite easy to review through blood tests, so do push for them

Good luck

Hi straw66. I have just had my 2nd mc (both at 5/6weeks) and I empathise with you. Its an awful unknown place to be in.

I think where to go next depends on so many things. I have taken heart today from 3 colleagues with different stories - 1 who had 2 boys, 7 mc's then 2 more boys, another who had dc,mc, dc,mc and another who had a dc, 3 mcs (2 early 1 14wks) then 2 more dc no problems.

After speaking to them I am feeling more positive that even a few mcs are not necessarily meaning a major problem - that even more than 1 can be just 'bad luck'.

I do think it helps me that I already have a ds and dd so I know my body can 'do it'. Do you have children already?

What I am trying to say is that it is an awful place to be in right now, do push for the tests if that is right for you, but do have faith that it will happen one day.

Lesley regan's book 'what all women need to know about miscarriage' has been a great help to me this past few days (I need facts to cope!)

You are not alone. Its an awful awful foul place to be.

take care and good luck x

hi, thanks for the help! so sorry to hear your news too
yes, i do have one ds already - but had a pretty bad pg with him and he was born at 32wks, so i was nervous anyway before this all started...
will have a look for the book - facts are always good and definitely help me too.
i guess as much as anything it's fingers crossed for next time?

I'm so sorry .

I've had repeated miscarriages too, and after the 3rd had all the tests for recurrent mc - this is standard after 3. I'm surprised the drs have said that to you. Have you been officially discharged from the hospital care? If not, definitely press them on the tests as there may be a cause which is treatable. If you don't have another appt at the hospital I would definitely go to the GP and insist. The standard rule of thumb is that one or two is 'bad luck' but that more than this may suggest an underlying reason - and it hopefully will be treatable.

Take care & hope you'll have good news soon.

yes - fingers crossed but not legs