has anyone had two or more miscarriages after a normal, successful pregnancy?

[silvermum]

i can't believe i'm on this board again but it looks like i'm having a second miscarriage. I have one DS and it was a normal pregnancy and everything was fine. DS is now 15 months. We started trying again in the summer and I got pregnant on the first attempt but had a miscarriage at seven weeks. We tried again in September and again I got pregnant, but when I went for an early scan today it was not good news. They can't give me a definite answer yet but the fetal pole is far too small for my dates and it doesn't look good. the first miscarriage seemed like just "bad luck" - now it looks like it's happening again. Is it "just bad luck" again or something else? I am a very fit, healthy (or so i thought) 34 yr old. never smoked in my life but maybe my age is counting against me. not as shocked this time but so disappointed and don't know what to think.
any shared experiences?

I have a positive story to share, and will do so after putting DS to bed in a few minutes.

So sorry to hear your news.

thanks. this time i was psyched up for bad news as was determined not to be as shocked as last time...but in my heart of hearts i didn't think it would really happen twice....

Right, hopefully he is staying in bed!

I had DS in 2006 and DH and I started trying for our second baby last christmas. I got pregnant relatively quickly, given that we had fertility treatment first time around with DS.

I was pregnant in March, and had a very early miscarriage. By May I was pregnant again, and had another early miscarriage.

I am now 14 weeks pregnant and this pregnancy is looking good. When I found out I was pregnant this time around I went to see the GP and she said that what had happened to me was not uncommon but she wanted to refer me to the consultant anyway, regardless of what happened with this pregnancy, to get to the bottom of it. She also suggested taking aspirin every day, which I did. Who knows if it was the aspirin that made the difference?

I think I knew with both of the miscarriages that the outcome was inevitable. I felt very different about this latest pregnancy. I knew it was going to be OK.

You know from before that you need to give yourself some time and space to recover. I think the emotional recovery is easy to underestimate and it is only looking back that I appreciate just how tough it was.

thanks for that. it doesn't help that my gp is not at all sympathetic - after my first miscarriage she basically said (rightly as it turned out!) that i shouldn't be surprised if i have another (not because she knows anything is wrong with me, but just because 'miscarriages happen'. ) This time round she refused to refer me for an early scan, so i went private. i know if i go back to her and say i've had a second miscarriage, her attitude will be that it's no big deal. I know what she means but it is a big deal when you're going through it.

silvermum I will so keep my fingers and toes crossed for you. I had a healthy pregnacy age 33, no problems with ds now 7yrs - now I am recovering from my 3rd mc...well you can do the maths! All 3 mc were under 12 weeks.

Sorry to hear about your m/c, it is a big deal and don't let anyone infer otherwise.

I had 2 m/c then 2 sucessful pregnancies with no medical intervension or aspirin, so different situation but I hate it when women get comments like that from a doctor and just had to post.

I had dc in 2001 and 2002, no problems, couldn't understand what all this talk about mc was. Tried for dc3 in 2005 but 2 mc - 1 @ 4 weeks; 1@ 11.5 weeks which was a missed mc, so nothing growing beyond about 6 weeks.

Had dc3 in Aug 2006 (phew, got into same school year as mc would have done!)

Was 39 when started trying for 3rd

I personally didn't want the time and space that llareggrub wanted, but I know lots of women do. Just wanted to get on with it and try lots. V hard not to keep looking at calendar, but dh loved the attention. Sorry, not trying to be flippant. At 34 you probably have v high expectations, so maybe you need to give yourself a few months 'off' before pouncing on your dh.

But it does seem that everything is on your side to have dc2 at some stage.

good luck

Hi Silvermum,

I am in a similar position. I have 2 lovely boys, 5 & 2, and had a mc at 7 weeks in May and then 10 weeks in September. I am currently TTC. All of the medical professionals I have spoken to have said it's "just" bad luck. I am really hoping this is the case and my next pregnancy will be successful. I will keep my fingers crossed for you too.

First pregnancy was successful
Then 3 MCs (latest was around 5/6 weeks)
Then healthy pregnancy

It really is bad luck with a lot of the MCs. I really hope that it's good luck next time for you.

thanks for the shared experiences. i think what's so hard is how long the whole process takes - waiting for the bleeding to start/end after the miscarriage; then waiting for normal periods to return; then waiting to TTC again; then waiting to see if you're pregnant; then waiting to get to 8 or 12 weeks for the scan, day by day hoping your little bean is hanging in there, etc etc etc. But DS is a great comfort and i will travel in hope. good luck to all other posters. i know that i could be at the beginning of a long road, with more miscarriages t come, but knowing i can make a baby helps and i'm optimistic.

Sorry to hear about your situation .

I had an ectopic first and then ds. Ds was originally one of twins but one stopped growing around 8 weeks and 'disappeared'. I got pg when ds was 10 months and at 12 week scan was found to have no foetus. It was presumed that this was blighted ovum. I got pg again when ds was 18months, mc'd at 5 weeks and again a couple of months ago and mc'd at 6 weeks.

Each time, no problem getting pregnant. I've now been referred for tests, although the consultant can refuse to do any as I have a healthy child. Also, in the eyes of the medical profession, it only stops being 'bad luck' and starts being 'unusual' at 3 consecutive mcs.

Probably best to ignore me (feeling down about it all today) and concentrate on the positive stories. I keeping looking at ds and marvelling at the miracle he now seems to be . Each new pregnancy is a new chance. Hugs and best wishes for the future.

silvermum, I think you've hit the nail on the head - it's just one long, painful waiting game. I had a mc on Friday at 6.5 weeks, but knew a couple of days before that things just weren't right. The worst of it is that I absolutely blame myself: I had a bad chest infection and was coughing myself into a frenzy all the time. I was also working some fairly crazy hours. All in all, just not looking after us both the way I should. I was not surprised when I mc'd, but I was devastated. Like some of the others, I just want to get on with ttc again and am not intending to wait for a normal period, but am going to see what happens. It's just so hard...

I had 2 dds and then 2 mcs and then another dd..so there is is hope.

My friend fell pregnant with her ds the first month of trying, had 3 miscarriages and has just given birth to her dd. She doesn't know why she had the miscarriages.

Hi there.

A similar story, (but with a very happy outcome!) here too.

I had a DD with no hassle. Decided to try for another baby and got PG straight away but lost it at 12 weeks, (on Christmas day which happened to be the day before DD1s 1st birthday) then got PG again, pretty much straight away, and lost this baby at 13 weeks (2 days after the 12 week scan which showed perfect size, healthy etc etc).

I was then referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic and they gave me regular checks throughout my next PG which ended up with a gorgeous DD.

Happy endings are there you just need to believe it will all be ok.

That doesn't belittle what you are going through now though, it is such a hard time and I completely understand how sad you must feel. I am however shocked by the lack of sympathy of your GP.

I completely empathise with you, Silvermum - and everyone else here who has experienced similiar.
I have a healthy DS of 18 months old who was conceived very easily - a very easy pregnancy too! Yes, he was a miracle. I always knew that, but given the trouble I have had with subsequent pregnancies, we are truly blessed to have him.
This year however I have conceived twice very quickly and had two early missed m/cs, the second of which I am still going through.
As someone else said, I have been told I will only be referred for investigation IF (please, not again!) I have three consecutive m/cs. (By the way, I also had one four years ago).
Like you, Silvermum, I couldn't believe this was all happening to me again for the second time. I had so much, albet cautious, faith in this latest pg.
I had medical management for the missed m/c nearly two weeks ago but am still having a bit of bleeding. I just wish it would all stop and we could start TTC again. I wasn't going to start even waiting around for my AF to come as I'm 39 and the clock is going tick tock.Re your concerns about your age, I was told by the EPAU that I still have a good few years in me - so on that basis I think you have no need to worry at 34!
I was also told that these 2 mcs were most likely bad luck as I had had a beautiful, healthy baby boy. So it could very likely be the same for you.
Let us know how it all goes; you never know, all may not be lost!

This thread brought back some sad memories fo rme too - though there was a happy ending. Conceived DS1 with no problems at all, wonderful natural birth, but then had two miscarriages in a row, absoloutely devastating, then conceived DS2 very soon after second miscarriage and had another trouble free pregnancy and a comfortable home birth. Although there is nearly 4 years between children they are very close. I was also told no point in tests unless I had 3 in a row - I was very upset about this at the time, but it proved to be the right advice for me really, with hindsight.

how dreadful for you... but please take heart, MIL had 3 miscarriages and 4 children (alternating)...my best friend from school had 4 miscarriages in a row and then 3 preganancies one after the other and now has 3 children.

I spent 9 months ttc dd1 and had a problem free pregnancy (apart from her being breech) then we started ttc when she was 11 months fell pregnant just after her 1 st birthday and had a MMC (discovered at private scan at 10 weeks) fell pregnant again in the January and had miscarriage at 6 weeks. Then fell pregnant again in the April and although I bled on and off from 4 to 14 weeks then 20 to 38+3 and after lots of scans dd2 arrived in the January!

I remember being devasted that after actually managing to fall pregnant relatively easy (well easier than when we were trying first time) that I couldnt actually keep 'hold' of the babies, sort of makes dd2 very special

Poor you. I can sypathise too. Had 2 mc then DS, then 3 mc in a row. Am now 15 weeks into another pg. I did get a referral to a recurrent miscarriage specialist and the fact that I have a DS was what she said meant that we could carry and would carry full term again. So take heart, you managed it before, and I'm sure you will again. What I think makes a massive difference is the care you get. I was given weekly scans up till 12 weeks with this pg and Lesley Regan says too that good care is often the cure for recurrent mc. Push for early scans next time. Good luck.

many thanks all. i do feel very low today - like a huge heavy heart feeling - and am sure things will be difficult for the next few days or even weeks. i will just try to take things one day at a time, not something i'm very good at. and while my heart is sinking and feeling negative, my head says i can and will have another baby all in good time. and meanwhile i'm consoling myself that baby no2 is a lot easier if baby no1 is out of nappies, which he definitely should be by the time we have another one at this rate!

Silvermum - I know that the advice is to just keep trying until it's really impt - arbitrary figure of 3 mc's - which is exactly what my mum had, me, 3 mc then my brother.. but what I would say is that there is no harm in your gp just getting a blood test done for you. If you can't convince him of the need for a full screening, some of the things that can make a difference including thyroid problems.

This is on the experience of my and close friend. Between us covered mc/mmc/falling pg. at the drop of a hat (or something) and then trying for 18 months without luck. There were thyroid reasons for all our issues.

Good luck,but please take this as just our experiences, it may "just be one of those things", and next time will be fine, although it never feels like it til you've got the next one safely in arms.........

J

I am seven weeks pregnant at the moment but really anxious as I have previously suffered from 2 mmc and 1 embrionic pregnancy. I do have a DD who is nearly four years old who desperately wants a sibling, but I fear that if this pregnancy isn't successful I don't know if I can go through this again. Will have to wait and see what happens I guess? My husband is understanding but just thinks we could keep trying until we success in having another child.

Mrsmope - your husband perhaps thinks miscarriages get easier each time, because you've been through it all before, but in fact, i suspect, the opposite is true - the stakes feel higher and higher every time it happens. i am just back from the hospital and am booked for an ERPC next Friday, about which i'm just about to post another thread.
i hope you have a successful pregnancy soon
x

I've had 4 m/c since having ds (normal pg). I wish I knew why. I did have high TSH levels which are now stable (with Thyroxine) but I just had a blighted ovum pregnancy. I want to feel hopeful but is is hard