Help! Trying to miscarry naturally but not happening!

[snoangel144]

Hi everyone. This is my first time here. I really need some advice. I went into the Dr on October 18th and they found no heartbeat. I was around 7 weeks they think. The baby was only measuring around 5 1/2 weeks. I went in again last week and still measuring at 5 1/2 weeks and he said my placenta was unfortunately still working?? I REALLY wanted to pass this naturally, but its just not happening. I have not even started spotting or anything yet. I actually have NO symptoms of starting anytime soon. My Dr. said he thinks I am at low risk for infection since he doesn't think the baby even made it to embryo status and its just a bunch of tissue the size of a Lima bean. He wants to schedule a D&C, but Im so scared to go under (its a huge fear of mine...crazy I know!) So, I am wondering how long it normally takes for most women to miscarry and am I crazy for waiting this long? Are there any of you that waited a good 4 or 5 weeks or MORE to do this naturally? If I waited would it just have to happen sooner or later? Why isn't it happening? Anyone else out there with a similar story? Im feeling so torn with this decision. Im actually really mad at my body for not kicking itself into gear!

Thanks,

Tawni

Hi snoangle sorry to hear about your loss, im also trying to miscarry naturally at the moment.

I started spoting on friday, and over the weekend it has started to get like a heavy period, but i have no clots at the moment, I think it should'nt take longer then four weeks.

So maybe if nothing happens, you may need to go back to your gp, hope everything gets sorted for you very soon.

Unfortunatly it can take a long time - my first pregnancy the foetus never developed, or at least not past 6 weeks, but it wasn't detected until I had a routine scan at 13 weeks - I had an ERPC the next day as they said that it was really unlikely to miscarry properly on its own.

Ask your doctor about an ERPC under local anaesthesia or medical management which are both alternatives.

Hi, I too am miscarrying but thankfully all progressing naturally. I am in touch with a very good homeopath who has helped me no end both mentally and physically, changing the remedies as my emotions/symptoms alter. It is worth trying before you enter the medical route, especially as you are lowrisk of infection etc.

Hi snoagle. I too am miscarrying but am booked in for an ERPC (think that's the same as a D&C) this Friday. I would have been 12 wks tomorrow but a little bleeding at the w/end resulted in a scan today which showed an empty pg sac. Decided to opt for the ERPC as would rather get it all done in one in case it takes ages to come on by itself or maybe not at all. I am sure it's better for it to happen naturally but if it doesn't you need it all cleared out to prevent infection. I had an MC in June this year also but it came on naturally so I didnt need to go to hospital.

Bizarrely I actually like going under general anaesthetic - does that make me more crazy than you?! Always just feels like I've had the best sleep ever! Could be because I am naturally a bit of an insomniac.. dunno..

Good luck with whatever you decide to do..

Hi Snoangel

Sorry you are going through this. I really feel for you. I found out at 11 weeks in my first scan that the embryo had not developed past 5 or 6 weeks. I had not bled or anything and had full morning sickness. They told me to come back a week later so today I had a second scan.

In the meantime, I started bleeding on Thursday. It got really heavy, lots of clots and terrible cramping last night followed by more bleeding. After I passed lots more blood the cramping stopped and I felt fine. I have barely bled since then.

Anyway today I went for the second scan and although I thought it was over, the sac remained. So after an agonising week in every way, I need to have the EPRC anyway.

I think you should do whatever feels right for you. Some people would prefer to wait and see. Personally I found it so hard to prolong things, and the pain last night was pretty horrible. I wish I could have had the EPRC last week, but hopefully I'll get it tomorrow and I can move on.

My heart goes out to you. After a week of crying constantly, I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

Big Hug