Going through Miscarriage right now

[Foreverfriends]

I apologise for joining the forum and making my first post on such a horrific topic but im really needing some advice. I had a scan two weeks ago and was told only a sac could be seen but as i was around 5-6 weeks it was pretty normal. I went back for another one last Wednesday and it was the same thing. I was then told it was an Anembryonic Pregnancy, basically the fetus never grew and never would. I was giving the option to miscarry naturally and strangeley enough started bleeding as soon as i got home. Its going to be the 6th day tomorrow and so far the bleeding is ok. The toilet paper is very full and messy but the pads are no different to a normal period. Ive had cramping off and on which is annoying more than painful and then they disappear completely. What im wanting to know is -
1 - How long do i expect this to go on for? Will it get worse?
2 - How will i know when to see my gp to make sure ive passed everything?
3 - What do i look for as regards to what im passing? I cant fully see into the toilet and everything is too bloody anyway
4 - Is it normal to be able to smell underneath? Its not foul at all, more strong bloody.

Sorry for all the questions and thank you in advance xxxx

Hello
Really sorry you are going through this. I don't have any advice but didn't want this thread dropping off the active conversations. I am sure someone with some answers will be along shortly.
Take care.

forever im sorry to, i had mmc in sept of this year but was further on so had to have medical help. You can bleed for up to 14 days, but it is advised to go back if you bleed any longer than that. Same goes for gp, i would go at the end of this week for blood test and a pregnancy test which should read negative if the sac has passed. The smell is normal, but if is smells foul you have to have it checked, im here if you need to talk xx

see your dr and see what they say, i had a m/c that was hard but had a d/c in the end

Hi. really sorry that you have to join us like this. My first mc was an anembryonic pg, but was only detected at a 13 week scan.

You shouldn't have heavy bleeding for more than 2 weeks - at 8 weeks it will be hard to tell what has passed and what hasn't to be truthfull with all the clots etc. The smell is normal.

If you are at all worried, you should go back to the EPAU - they are the ones who will be able to scan you to check if all is clear - the GP won't, and it could take 2 weeks to have a negative pg test

My gosh i never expected so many replies this quick! Thank you all so much! To be honest, i can cope with the bleeding, its the pain that ive heard is to be expecting and the "gush" that so many have talked about. That really scares the living day lights out of me. I have severe Health Anxiety anyways, so this is my worst nightmare and ive already lost 10lb since Wednesday with fright and worry. I'll tell you one thing though, hand on bible, i will never ever get pregnant again. Not ever.

forever, i miscarried around the same stage as you, and in my case the physical aspect of it - ie the actual bleeding etc- was really no big deal. i didn't have any pain at all (except low level period type pains, definitely no worse than a normal period); the amount of blood was probably only 1.5x a normal period; and there was no 'rush' though i do remember feeling a 'blob' passing which may or may not have been the gestational sac. the emotional side of it was crap but physically, it really wasn't anything to worry about. hope it's the same for you

No gush, pain controlled by paracetamol, bled on and off for about 2 weeks.
Heavy period type thing.

I have had 3 of these.

We are trying again now, its been 11 months of trying.

The overwhelming need for a baby far outweighed the distant heartbreak of my mcs.

Give yourself time to heal and recover.
many hugs to you.

ForeverFriends, I coudn't read and not post.

Never had an Anembryonic Pregnancy, but I've had 3 MC.

Only one of your questions I can answer is the smell. Very normal. Real strong irony blood smell.

Why do you say you will never get pg again? Is this because of what's going on now? Or other circumstances that you haven't mentioned?

It's just so sad if you are basing your decision on what's happened. You would be very likely to have a successful pregnancy next time. I'm sure you know that though. Please don't go swearing on bibles yet. Take a few months to recover first.

Thinking of you FF. x

Many thanks everyone. I feel a bit better reading some of your stories. The reason im not going to get pregnant again is because of my Health Anxiety. Im terrified beyond belief of hospitals, doctors, anything really to do with messing with my body. Im very tuned in to everything going on with me and just cant cope.

That's sad though, presuming you would like children. If not, then it doesn't mattter. But if you would like children, is counselling for your health anxiety a possible solution?

I have had councelling, seen 3 different psychiatrist and many many doctors and ive begged them to refer me for CBT and they all say i dont need it, im fine. Ive given up now trying to get help.

Foreverfriends,

I think we must be related. First, Im so sorry for your loss. I am actually waiting for mine to happen. I just posted my own post today cause I really need advice. I have been waiting for weeks, but have not even started spotting! Anyways, I will not do a D&C for fear of going under and being in the hospital. I have a fear of not waking up. I have major health anxieties also. I actually have panic attacks. I have had to work on it A LOT. I feel like everyday is a battle for me. I have a 2 year old daughter who I now get to worry about also! I feel faint when she gets a bloody nose. I feel SOOO vulnerable having a child, because I love her so much it hurts. Having her makes me a more fearful person than I was before, but I would not change it for anything in the world! She is such a gift. Thats why Im trying again and again for more. I feel like I live in a lot of fear...fear of the unknown. I so feel your pain. It sucks! I tried to get help also, but the only thing that gets me through stuff is prayer. I also have to keep my nose in the bible to reread all of Gods promises and remind myself over and over that I am not in control...he is. Thats what helps me. Sorry if I am sounding preachy. That is not me at all. I have tried everything and thats the only thing that kind of works. I hope we both find peace...

PS...are you still going through the miscarriage process?

Aww snoangel, thanks a lot for your reply. You sound a lot braver than me. You've been through labour and still trying for more. I envy you i really do
Well my cramping is the worst its ever been today but the bleeding had practically stopped. I wouldnt even need to wear a pad but i know things could start up again quite quickly. My mam had to go for a flu jab today at my surgery and she told the nurse my back was bad and she then told my mother "thats not normal, go straight to Emergency Room"! Bloody hell, i even i know back ache is normal when having Miscarriage! If i hadnt have done so much research on this, her comments could have tipped me right over the edge! I know how you feel about a D&C. I also think i wouldnt wake up, but now i keep thinking, if i had had that done, it would all be over with now. Knowing my luck, i'll have no option and need to be "cleaned out". Ive managed to get a scan done tomorrow morning at 8:15 so i can have a check over then to see if i have miscarried or still in the process. Great, another sleepless night of worry for me

Hi FF

I am also going through a miscarriage at the minute, i was 5 wks 6days and baby passed naturally i think, am devastated as this was a much wanted baby but the blood smell is natural

Lisa

Im so sorry Lisa. Was this your first baby?
Well ive been having this full bloated feeling right behind my pubic bone all day, very uncomfortable. I just run myself a warm bath to try and ease it but went to the toilet before i got in. I had a wee which was nice and clear (no blood i mean)but something made me sit there longer. Dont know what, maybe instinct? As i sat there i then heard this "PLOP", i looked down and then came this small gush of thick treacle like blood. I went hot with panic but then kept telling myself "its ok, you knew this could happen" and then instantly the pain and bloatedness disappeared. It must have been the pressure of it all building up. I cried then because im so proud of my body for doing what its suppose to do. I know this can happen again soon, but i think i know now when it will come.

Hi foreverfriends,
I just had a miscarriage at the same stage as you. It started 4 weeks ago and I think I've just stopped bleeding today.
My advice is don't go anywhere without painkillers, my pain was very bad but it didn't start until a few days into the bleeding - I hope you don't have the same.
I understand your health anxieties I have them too, I just keep telling myself that this is a natural process and I just need to get through it - wine helps too!
Please don't let it put you off trying again, babies are so worth it. Did you say you had hypnotherapy? I found that it helped a lot.
Good luck to you,
Vicky.

Hi FF
No i have two beautiful children which im truly thankful for but i dont understand something.
I had my daughter at 20 and i was only with her father for a month when i got the news that i was expecting, i was shocked and truly didnt want a baby but he was brilliant, most men would have run a mile, then we went on to have our son when i was 22 quite easily again. We got married in July and decided it would be a good time to have our 1st legal baby so we have been trying since august, i never expected to get pregnant so quickly and was overjoyed about it but then this happens, i cant understand why i had 2 successful pregnancies out of wedlock but then have a miscarriage when im married, life works in mysterious ways i tell u.
Im so sorry for your loss and i hope time is a healer for both of us xxxxx

Hello. Just wondering if anyone is still hanging around. Sorry to all of those who have suffered losses recently.

I had a miscarriage around the same time (about 20 Oct) at 5 weeks. The bleeding was never really heavy, more like brownish spotting. Thing is it is still going. Everytime I think it is slowing down it comes back. How long should this be going for? And how long until a negative pregnancy test?

hi ive been reading ur stories as im misscarring my self at this very mo i had my son a year ago tomorrow his pregnancy was hard i found out i was pregnant the 2nd of feb last yr and lost my baby the very next day my clots was like strawberry seeds my doctor is horrible his answer was oh well ur get over it but 2 weeks later i took a home test again for it to come up very dark positive but the doctor said theres no way ur pregnant my hcg levels dropped to 10 but i knew something wasnt rite i went bk to doctors for him to say ur baby will die at 6 weeks pregnant it was hell s i passed the 6 weeks then he said it will die so dont get attacthed but a yr on and my son is now 1 i found out on the 31st last month i was pregnant im about 5 weeks fwe days but i started bleeding this sunday my little girls birthday but i stopped bleeding yesterday morning with only a few bits of blood when i wipe after going to loo i have docs appointment this afternoon but not hopefull as i sort of no its died gone whatever im finding it hard i do and am lucky i have 4 kids and 4 misscariages but it still hurts no looking forward to what doc has to say i know i shouldnt but that hope is still there but deep down i know really but ive never had m/c like this ty for reading jo

FF - hope you are ok. Only just seen this post but just wanted to say that I understand exactly what you are going through. My anembryonic pg was picked up at my 12 week scan, and like you I began bleeding the following day.

Antonyjo - so sorry to hear you are suffering at the moment. Can you get your mw to refer you to the early pg unit to put your mind at rest either way?

i dont speak to mw until 12 weeks gone so its done to my docs hun its hard to get in as they say let nature take course which is true but just need to no its coming out ok and no probs but hopefully my doc will be resonable for a change have to see when i see him today ty fo answering bk xx