so low after 2 mcs-does counselling really help?

[beanie35]

I suffered my 1st mc in august 07 and my 2nd in may 08. Both babies died at 6/8 weeks, but I lost them naturally at home at 11 weeks. I had to deal with it more or less alone as my partner was working abroad both times. Im still finding it so hard to overcome this overwhelming sadness and loss. An acquaintance asked if i'd thought about counselling. Has anyone here tried it, did it make any difference to their grief?

hi beanie, I'm so sorry for your miscarriages, I've just had my 2nd mc last week. The 1st one was in June this year, I thought about councelling then, but I was pg again before I did anything about it and that took my mind off it. This time round it's still too early days for me. I'm sure someone will be along soon with some better advice.

Beanie, I am so sorry for the loss of your babies. I have found that once you had a bereavement, any subsequent loss hits you harder. I had counselling after my Dh died and I found it very helpful. I would go not knowing what I was going to talk about and then suddenly all these feelings, thoughts and emotions that I had no idea were so developed would come tumbling out. I also felt it helped to reduce re-living the trauma of the time as well (that might be the case with you as you were alone at the time of your losses). I have just miscarried my husband's twins at six weeks and in many ways I feel very much like when my husband died. I am also looking into having counselling again because I benefited from it some much in the past. I hope you will be able to as well.