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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Miscarrying on holiday and thoroughly hacked off

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vonsudenfed · 09/08/2008 23:00

Second miscarriage; it started a few days ago, spotting dark blood just like the first one. And I thought that I wasn't so upset as before - at least I have had dd in between, life's OK.

But actually, I am upset and pissed off. I've just started to bleed properly, and I daren't go to bed as I'm staying in my friend's flat and am terrified I will wreck her best bed (she's away). This is my holiday, and I've spent it going back to the EPU I went to when we used to live in London.

Today, also, her fridge broke, the sink flooded with lots of stinky water from the nappy wash, it's raining and now I am not going to get to go to sleep. I am sitting on a towel on the sofa in case I wreck her furnishings too (last time I miscarried it was pretty unpleasant).

And I'm 42 and may never get to have a second child.

And it's saturday night, so I'm not really expecting anyone to be around, but at least I feel better for getting it off my chest.

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Kif · 09/08/2008 23:03

how lousy.

.I'd stop viewing it as holiday - and rename it 'kind to yourself' time. Try to plan another holiday for better times?

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vonsudenfed · 09/08/2008 23:09

Yes, that would be nice.

Oddly enough, I'd really rather be at home now. Then at least I could distract myself by tidying out a cupboard or something! Last thing I want to do now is relax and read books...

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DillyTanty · 09/08/2008 23:11

oh fucksakes, vonsudenfed, i'm so sorry.

NorthernLurker · 09/08/2008 23:12

How horrible for you. That is lousy and unfair and miserable. Can you just go home tomorrow? I'm normally a fan of just carrying on etc but in your shoes I'd want my own bed and my own space.

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vonsudenfed · 09/08/2008 23:23

We're going for lunch with my brother tomorrow; I am not sure what is worse carrying on or having to explain to him. Probably the latter.

And I think it will be all over tomorrow, won't plague you nice people with tmi but I think it's all out now. (thank the lord it was a blighted ovum, so nothing I didn't want to see).

But it is shite. I was going to tell my parents next week (it's 10 weeks, my body is very good at holding on, even when there's no hope). Fuck and damn.

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DillyTanty · 09/08/2008 23:25

oh fuck, i am so sorry, you poor thing. it's shite, isn't it?

ButterflyMcQueen · 09/08/2008 23:26

thoughts with you x

JonahTakalua · 09/08/2008 23:29

so sorry, vonsudenfed.

could your brother come over to you tomorrow, so you can slob around at your friend's flat instead?

DillyTanty · 09/08/2008 23:30

or could db take your other child out for a wee while?

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vonsudenfed · 09/08/2008 23:35

All good thoughts; I'll see what I feel like tomorrow. Who knows, I may even enjoy the distraction of a trip out to darkest Camberwell (as long as no one shoots me in the supermarket!).

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3andnomore · 09/08/2008 23:43

Just wanted to say, that I am sorry for you!

DisplacementActivity · 10/08/2008 00:00

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becklespeckle · 10/08/2008 00:11

So sorry , my body always holds on too - it is shite as it gives you false hope. My only advice is to do what makes you feel good and stuff everyone else - your feelings are what matter for the time being so snuggle your DD, go home, eat chocolate, watch crap TV or do whatever you need to do to cope x

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vonsudenfed · 12/08/2008 13:11

Thankyou for all the nice messages everyone

Well I'm back at home, which is some small blessing, but have spent the last three days just passing more blood and stuff than I could have imagined possible. And each time I thought it had to have finished, it came back the next day for more.

Does anyone have any experience of this? I was ten weeks - missed miscarriage - and have no idea how long this will go on for. I scarcely dare go out (was driven home sitting on the change mat and a plastic bag...) in case it happens again.

I am tired, fed up and forty two. And now I need a holiday.

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roseability · 12/08/2008 13:48

Hi there

I am having a much earlier miscarriage (was only 5 weeks) but I have been bleeding heavily with clots since last thursday. I feel absolutely wiped out. It is just horrible isn't it

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vonsudenfed · 12/08/2008 13:55

hello there I remember your thread.

It's pretty grim isn't it- I had a miscarriage a couple of years ago, but don't remember it going on quite so badly. I keep almost going into the hospital because I am bleeding so much, then it stops. And then starts again on the M4.

How are you doing though in yourself? I'm rather missing the nice EPAU in London who keep asking me how I am - the drs here are a bit, oh well, shit happens.

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Jackstini · 12/08/2008 13:59

Hi vsf - so sorry to hear this. I had a D&C with my mmc but stil bled for about 3 days afterwards. It is a miserable time - try and give yourself a treat whilst you are at home. I remember thinking well if I have to be in this shitty situation it's damn well going to be with a hot bubble bath, a flake and glass of chardonnay...

CatIsSleepy · 12/08/2008 14:00

ah poor you vonsudenfed
am so sorry.
take care of yourself-hope you get your holiday

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