am i in denial?

[silvermum]

i'm having a miscarriage and feel strangely peaceful about it after several days of heartache, not knowing whether i was miscarrying or not.
i was just over 7 weeks pregnant and DH and i were happy and excited about the pregnancy and absolutely did not see this coming. i have a DS 11 months and have not had a m/c before.
for several days we had the agonising hope that things were going to be okay - it was a very upsetting time. when it became obvious i was miscarrying i was gutted but quickly hid it because i was staying with friends. now i have had the scan which confirms the miscarriage and i feel the worst is over. I am just relieved to know. Is it suddenly going to hit me? does anyone really just "get over it" that quickly?
i've not taken any time off work and just carried on as if everything is normal. has anyone else felt like this? maybe i've already done my grieving?

Hi Silvermum my DD is one and a half, how old is yours? i have finally stopped bleeding so I think we will start trying again straight away. I have finally accepted that I am not pregnant anymore.

munchiesmama, can I just say that I think you are a very very brave lady to start trying so soon after. I really dont know what to do about it. Boyf wants to start straight away I switch all the time from "yeah lets do it", to "maybe we should no try as such just not use any protection and see what happens", and then there is "NO! what if it happens again?? Its not your body that killed the last baby it was carrying is it??". I know a bit dramatic when I see it written down but sometimes that is how I feel.

Its all the why's and what if's that makes it worse isnt it?? xx

Aw... mcfc67, do you not feel like you can talk to you partner because you think he is hurting more than you??

Feel free to come on here and chat anytime I think you can send me a private message too, but I havent been on her long so dont really know all the ins and outs out it yet. If you know anymore that I do please feel free to guide me through it.

Morning WW its not brave its is a mixture of putting my head in the sand chanting to myself "It cant possible happen again, It cant possible happen again". I am trying to think of it from the point of view that at least, like you, I know my body can carry a baby to term and take some hope from that. But also my experience was much less distressing that yours, my womb was empty so my little angel didnt make it very far and I never saw it.

I read on one of your other threads that you are going to plant a tree, we are also planning to do that. I thought a lovely cherry blossom that will be covered in beautiful flowers each year when the babys birthday would have been.

Take care xx

a cherry blossom sounds lovely...at the moment i am dealing with my m/c by sort of pretending the baby didn't really exist. when i had the scan it showed an empty sac. i'm not sure what this means - surely you can't have a sac without an embryo? (hmm, can't remember biology lessons) but as it was all so early i think i might actually make myself feel worse if i think there was a real baby in there. but if it had been at a later stage i would definitely like to plant a tree or something.

sorry dont know how to send a private message either,first day on it yesterday, been sick again this morning my partner is really worried now he says that I have to go to the doctors as I had stopped being sick but now started again and my boobs being so sore, explained that its probably my hormones in turmoil, but must admit I really dont know whats happening

I would go to the doctors too mcfc67 if I were you. I went to the doctors for a sick note on Monday and saw a male doctor that I had not really been to see before, well went when I had athletes foot but a monkey could diagnose that couldnt they?? lol

Anyway he was absoluty lovely with me I started crying before my bum had even reached the chair. Explained why I was there and he said he was sorry and the usual. He also asked me how I was feeling and that if I needed anything I was to ask.

Let me know how you get on chick??
Take care xx

thanks wickedwitch, hope you are ok, I rang the doctors for a sick note couldnt face going to see him, had to ring the midwife who had arranged to come this weekend to tell her not to bother, think thats when it really hit home, been off work 2 weeks now as the hospital signed me off for 10 days with the threatened miscarriage and then it happened, said I was going back to work yesterday but couldnt face it so rang for sick note, even silly little things like Emmerdale last night and Katie giving birth sent me into floods of tears, my partner said its not real its only telly!!