a dear dear friend has just suffered a missed miscarriage. she is on her way to stay with me for a few days. please tell me what a missed miscarriage is

[Amphibimum]

i know it happened about 5 weeks ago but her body didnt notice. was picked up at 3m scan. she has just started to bleed. whats going to happen?
am so so . i cant imagine how she is feeling.

it's very common I'm afraid.
The baby dies but the body doesn't expel it for a few weeks.
if she has already started to bleed the she will be given the option to let nature take it course or she might be offered a D&c where they take everything out in hospital.
Hope your friend feels better soon

oh right ok. so there may not be any procedures to go through then...
thank you kittywise for your response.

she will probably have what feels like a very heavy period and be very sad

She'll need a good friend around (but she has one of those )

i wish i could scoop her up and mother her for a year or so...

thanks tommy.

Probably not a proceedure at teh 12 weeks stage if the baby died at around 7 weeks, unless she requests it. I had a missed mc at 16 weeks and had an induced "labour". Was offered a D&C which I refused, but wasn't given the option to let nature take it's course.

I hope your friend comes through this - hold her close and keep the chocolate and hot tea coming.
{{hugs to you adn your friend at this horrible time}}

thank you bibi, i will try.
sorry for your loss too.

Amphibimum, one of my four miscarriages was a missed miscarriage. If she is letting nature take it's course and you are going to be looking after her I'd advise the following - paracetamol type painkillers, hotwater bottles, relaxing bubble baths and lot of cuddles. Wine and chocolate also helps I find.

righto, thanks for the list - v useful! i will provide the lot. i just wish i could take the pain away, and that i cant do .
thank you worrybum. hope you are well now.

Absolutly, buy the poor love a big bottle of wine or 2, a hot water bottle, some chocolate and fleece and hire love actually.

You sound like a great friend, she's lucky to have you.

sorry for her loss

Oh, poor friend. I had a missed m/c in Feb (turned out to be a bit more complicated than that as it was a molar pregnancy). Are you in the same area as her hospital?

It sounds like you are a good friend . I've had one missed MC and recently one that started naturally and know that people were very important to me at both times, close friends especially. She's probably just feeling incredibly sad. I'd suggest doing lots of girly things: watching DVDs, wine, talk, chocolate, etc.

thanks worzel and becky.

habb - no, nowhere near her area. she'll have to go home to see the consultant about options... unless i can line something up here i suppose (access to nhs services is light years from my experience of growing up in london tbh so its possible.)

and sorry about yours habb. dont know what a molar pg is but im sure it wasnt fun.

Oh no!!! Is this who I am thinking?

im having a mc just now (well found out a week ago but still bleeding now) i dont have family support etc but someone had helped me hugely, do you have an email and if you like i could maybe share how they have helped? or i could post mine if you dont want to post yours.

yeah, i reckon so.
shes here now - gone to bed, as i must too!
ds2's party tomorrow (agghhhhhhhhhhhh) not that im panicking at all.

Oh Is it odd telling you to hug a stranger for me?

I will see you tomorrow xxx

banana - so sorry for your loss, and thank you. yeah, if youd like to mail me i am on nappiesgalore @ gmail . com.

i think im gonna be ok though... listening and loving is about all i can do, at least one of which happens to be my forte [groan]

it feels wrong to be talking about her without her knowledge now so i'll prob leave this thread to get buried now... thank you so much for your shared experiences everyone and i wish you all peace and happiness.

see you tomorrow flame. fgs dont act like you know!(as if you would)

Of course I wouldn't you daft bint!

How is she today?