How to prepare for medical management in a missed miscarriage?

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Hoping for practical tips/advice on what to expect

Unfortunately I was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage on Monday (at almost 10 weeks). I am going in Friday for my first pill and blood tests and will be admitted Sunday, I am not allowed to go home until I have passed everything.

I am feeling nervous and anxious about the pain. I had a spontaneous miscarriage in February and dealt with that by staying in the bath all day. The worst of it was over in a day, whereas this has dragged on for 3 weeks between scans and I am now feeling so anxious and out of control about what is ahead of me.

I am also just feeling so emotionally low that we are now in month 7 of the year and I have spent over half of it in the first trimester, feeling sick and anxious, with nothing but 2 losses to show for it. I am lucky enough to have a 3 year old but I haven't been able to be as present with her while I have been feeling so sick, and that adds a layer of guilt too.

Has anyone got any advice for dealing with the pain/things to bring to make the process easier or any stories of hope/success after 2 miscarriages in quick succession?

So sorry you are going through this

I have not had the pills but had a D&C when I had a missed miscarriage

it’s not a nice time, but you get through it with support. Do you have friends or family who know?

Hope wise, I had a dd, then a MMC, then a CP, then my ds

All the luck in the world to you 💐

I’m so sorry to read that you are going through a mmc.

My first pregnancy ended in a mmc and had a D&C Christmas Eve 1996 . So that’s up there in my top 5 list of terrible Christmas

Second pregnancy was ectopic and had emergency surgery. Tube was saved.

Third pregnancy live birth in 1998

After that I couldn’t get pregnant and
needed Clomid to help. That resulted in 4th and last pregnancy DD2.

I had a similar year last year. MMC in May, I found the bath a great help. MMC in November, again the bath helped but I ended up needing surgery as the medication didn’t work. Is there anyway you can have the medication to take at home? For the second dose of medication My trust gave me medication, took it there and came home and they checked on me at 24 & 48 hrs? Both times medication kicked in around the 1 hour mark, I passed the pregnancy after 4 hours the first time and again after around 5/6 hours 2nd time the pain stopped but I hadn’t passed it. Odd they’re giving it to you over a weekend but I suppose all trusts are different. They sent me home with the first dose to take on a Saturday AM and I went back for the second dose on Monday AM. Maybe question if that’s something they can do for you so you could be at home?

if you need to be at the hospital I’d advise you take your own painkillers, get some cocodamol if you can take them as I find the wait on a ward for pain relief was agony. Plenty of sanitary items, fan as I was boiling, drinks/snacks as again the wait if you do fancy anything was ages. I took my own toilet roll as my hospital has those stupid single sheet dispenser and wet wipes. I also took a thin dressing gown to cover up back and fore the toilet. Ask for all the pain relief you can. Don’t be shy. I hope it goes well for you.

its awful spending so long pregnant and no baby. I’ve been pregnant 3 times in 9 months.
this time I got given progesterone, advocate for yourself and go prepped with your research when you have good new next time. I’m now 29 weeks with our first after an awful time last year. There’s hope, but you have to push and go armed with the knowledge of what you need. My trust did refer me to the recurrent clinic after my 2 missed miscarriages which was lucky, most ask for 3. It’s worth questioning your EPU. The EPU are beneficial when you need them. When you next have good news, call straight away and ask if you could be considered for progesterone or extra support.

Thank you all for the kind words and wishes.
@jackstiniunfortunately my family is in Spain on holiday and so I haven't said anything as I don't want to worry anyone, a couple of friends do know and have been sending messages and very supportive. I am so glad you finally got your second and it does give me hope for myself too.

@BeMintFatballthat must have been so scary, and what a rotten Christmas! Good to know it all worked out in the end though

@OrangeTrees7sorry to hear you have gone through this too, and congratulations on your pregnancy!
I did ask to go home but as I have had an emergency casearan with my daughter they have decided it's not safe for me to be unmonitored at home.
Thank you, I am definitely going to ask for progesterone if I am lucky enough to get pregnant again. I have PMOS which is an added risk factor and I wish I had asked the 2nd time I fell pregnant, but I wrongly assumed the first was just unlucky. I did ask about referral to recurrent miscarriage but they did say I need 3, which is agonising to think I might have to go through this all again. I looked up the cost of private testing but it started around 2 grand and that isn't realistic for us right now. I think I am going to see if my GP can do a few blood tests for me though and hopefully that will be helpful. I just need to get through this weekend first. Thank you for all the advice.

Ask if the doc can test you for Lupus

It’s a simple test but a common cause of MC and if it is that, it’s a simple daily injection when pregnant

Hope all goes as well as possible

I have seen some women using an online chemist for progesterone, I’m not sure where but you speak with a GP online and they can issue a progesterone prescription. May be worth looking into. I hope everything goes smoothly for you and you have good news soon. So terrible they wait for 3 before helping, I hope you get some help 🤞🏻