Experiences of trying again soon after miscarriage and subsequent pregnancies

[strawberry2026]

Just curious! I have had my first miscarriage whilst trying for our third baby at 10/11 weeks... I read that it’s common for women to get pregnant relatively quickly after miscarriage but just wondering if any of you had such luck or if any of you had subsequent miscarriages after trying straight away after a loss? I am 35 and my husband is 37 we have a boy (aged 3) and a girl (aged 6) already, no previous miscarriages my daughter was conceived really quickly my boy took a lot longer but that was due to personal circumstances mainly the loss of both my parents in the space of 6 months. I really want another baby and don’t want this to be how my fertility/ pregnancy journey ends but also want to hear if any of you have experienced subsequent loss after trying again and your journey. As I am scared to put my family through this again. Thank you for sharing I know it is difficult and also want to say I’m so sorry for your loss(es) no one should have to go through this ❤️

Hi @strawberry2026, I'm sorry for your loss💐
I had an MC that was discovered at my 12 week scan and I was pregnant again a month later. I'd had 3 MCs before this and went on to have a healthy pregnancy (with the help of progesterone). He is 4 now and sleeping next to me. I know it was grief that made me try again immediately after, but I'm really glad now that I did. You need to do what is right for you. I wish you all the best xx

@marplemead I am so sorry for your losses and so happy for you that you now have your boy ✨💙 🌈 thank you for sharing your story and for your kind words. I am ready to try again… but I think I’m going to wait for at least a cycle as that is what I have been advised and also required for hormone testing m. I think I also need to physically reset and recover from the stress etc as I had three missed periods before conceiving this baby which resulted in loss. Can I ask did you wait for your period before conceiving your boy or did it happen before your first period?

I’ve been pregnant 8 times and have 3 DC - experienced all kinds of losses but I’ve always got pregnant again within one to two cycles of a loss. I’m sorry this happened to you, it’s never easy, keep going and feel free to ask me anything.

I’ve been pregnant 6 times, twice successful. After my last miscarriage (before 2nd successful pregnancy) I asked the recurrent miscarriage clinic how long I had to wait before trying again (I was in my 40s at this point) and the advice given was to wait for at least one cycle.

This isn’t so they can accurately date your pregnancy. Pregnancy leaves a wound on your uterus and it needs time to heal even between early miscarriages or could potentially increase the chance of another miscarriage. Although some studies suggest there is no increased risk, I wasn’t prepared to chance it so waited for one cycle and conceived on the next.

Having said that - my history is that I have always conceived easily (5 out of 6 pregnancies on the first month trying, and the other was the second month) and had a known and treatable reason for my miscarriages (APS). I think that if I had struggled to conceive I wouldn’t have waited at all.

I’m sorry for your loss.

I fell pregnant straight away after my first miscarriage (I’d had ovarian drilling and was on clomid and was advised I had a very short window left). I miscarried much earlier the second time round, left it a few months and then got pregnant a few months after (leading to DD). My son was born just over a year after that. We then tried for a third a couple of years later, gave up, tried again, had another miscarriage and after a few more months decided to just stop being careful. I fell pregnant again a few months after that and had another daughter. My periods were regular, but I am an older mum.

@Herewegoagain8 I am so sorry for your losses and sending you baby dust 🪄✨... Thank you for your kind words, honestly one of nature's biggest flaws is this no-one should have to go through this ever. 😢

The GP said that the upside is that I still got pregnant without a period meaning I still ovulated without intervention so I suppose there is always hope because if you can conceive there can be a baby Earthside whenever that may be. 🤞💖

@OldGothsFadeToGrey I am so sorry to hear of your losses but so happy for you that you have two blessings despite the difficult journey to get here ❤️❤️ Thank you for sharing that is very helpful. At the moment I think my husband needs a bit more time emotionally to kind of get there and I read somewhere that when women lose a baby their pregnancy hormones and instinct is still in their system but without a baby so you kind of go into overdrive wanting a baby which makes sense that is why I think I am more ready than he is. Also as you said even if there isn't an increased risk if we did try straight away and we did have a miscarriage again I think I would feel just an awful lot of guilt to put him through it again so quickly after our first.

Weirdly we get pregnant when we are not trying! We have been trying since October and then in April when we hardly did the baby dance we got pregnant when we weren't even thinking about it and just testing to wait to see if I missed three periods to get hormone testing etc. The same thing happened with my son we 'tried' for a while and when we weren't trying was when we became pregnant I didn't even know I was pregnant with him until around 8 weeks. So I am hoping if we just take it one day at a time and wait until my cycle comes to do the hormone testing and bloods and just try and go back to normal without the pressure it might happen quicker this time and/or we may find out something from the testing which I can schedule once my first period comes. I have also read that after a loss you ovulate more so people have more success within the first six months after.

@scriptic I am so sorry for your losses but yay you got your third baby! ❤️❤️❤️ Thank you for sharing your journey... I think that is our plan after the first cycle comes rather than try just 'not be careful' so if it happens it happens and get the testing in the meantime. The GP wants me to wait to have a normal period first as she says they can give things like progesterone etc but that will just be a hormonal bleed and mean we won't know where I am with ovulation and my periods unless we let my body go back to its baseline but I think it takes normally 4-8 weeks after the miscarriage bleed stops for a cycle to come back so if it doesn't then I will probably chase the GP again to do the testing earlier to see what is going on. I also missed a period in November but the doctor wasn't concerned then but now that I missed a period then got it back and then missed three I feel like I am going to be told I don't have as much time to conceive... but let's see...

Many miscarriages are associated with poor egg quality, which may in turn be linked to hormonal imbalance. For this reason, it may be helpful to assess the key reproductive hormones: FSH, LH, prolactin, oestradiol, AMH, and testosterone. These tests are best performed together on day 2, 3, 4, or 5 of the menstrual cycle

@ProfShunAu Thank you. I appreciate the advice

With both my kids I had a miscarriage and then successful pregnancy within 2 months.

@GordanoServices Thank you for sharing that has given me hope 🌈❤️ I am so sorry about to hear of your losses but so happy for you that those two little souls came back to you 💕