TW: Should I go away if I've just been informed of a missed miscarriage?

[Penguin199]

I'm due to fly this weekend for a week in Europe on holiday.
This week, I was informed that I have an empty sac and no foetal pole. I'm 8 weeks and the sac measures at around 5 weeks, so most likely a mmc.
This is my first pregnancy/loss so I have no idea what to expect next.
I know my options are to let it run it's course, medical management or surgical.
I wasn't given any indication as to how long it may take to run it's course so I don't know whether to go away and risk it happening abroad or to stay at home where the hospital is a stone's throw away.
Has anyone else still travelled after being given the same information as me? If so, what were your experiences and what advice would you give?

Thanks

I’m so sorry for your loss

iv not been away but when mine was declared a MMC on the Thursday at a private scan 10 weeks measuring 7

i was booked for a hospital scan the Monday but miscarried the Saturday and would have been in no fit state to travel , I actually ended up in A&E due to pain and such heavy bleeding, although I was on blood thinners

I think it can be unpredictable whether you body then actually miscarries or not and even when I did I still needed medical intervention as my body couldn’t rid everything

sorry it’s not a definite answer and sorry your having to make this decision

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your experience!

My biggest concern would definitely be the potential of needing hospital treatment/intervention and not knowing how to communicate my needs.
It's such a difficult choice. My head is not in a good space emotionally and then the added decision of whether to continue with travelling is just not what I need right now, in terms of processing what is happening and choosing what will be safest.

I did go away on a uk break, but I had miscarriage previously so knew what to expect. The bleeding can start at any point unfortunately its a bit unpredictable.
There can be quite a lot of blood

I remember being in a holiday cottage standing in shower for a very long time.

Sorry for your loss

If you haven't started spotting yet, nothing could happen for quite a while though. Likely until you got back but hard to be certain..

However, you have the emotional side of it to deal with too.

I needed surgery to remove the products so travelling would have been a mistake, if it all comes away naturally it could be fine. Would you be covered by travel insurance if you know about the risks and you need hospital treatment?

So sorry :(

I had a mmc at 11 weeks. I would not have wanted to be abroad during that time :(

I went to hospital and had a horrendous night with lots of blood. I didn’t need any intervention but it was good to be able to have a scan after and then nice to know I was near home and could go and rest.

have you got travel insurance or anything?

I'm so very sorry. It's horrible news to receive, I know. It's difficult to predict what will happen - when I had my MMC, I found out at the 12-week scan on the Tuesday, was told to come back in 7 days to decide next steps, but I started miscarrying naturally on the Sunday. I then had several weeks of very heavy bleeding, with awful pain on a par with labour for the first ten days - I would have been in no fit state to travel or be away from home.

I'm sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing your experience!

Our travel insurance wouldn't cover me but I do have a GHIC so would receive some treatment as if I were a local.

The more I hear and read the more I just wonder if it's not worth the risk

I'm so sorry for your loss too, it is truly awful. Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm so conflicted ... On the one hand, many experiences seen to occurr later than I currently am so I feel like I would probably be fine but on the other hand, with the unpredictability, I just don't know if it's worth the risk.

I can't really believe that this is what I'm having to think about or decide when all I really want to do is try and process it all.

That’s a difficult situation to be in. Not quite the same, but I had a work day trip within the UK on the day after I found out about my MMC. I couldn’t focus at all, I wore several pads and had my handbag stocked with pain killers. Every little twitch I felt I thought oh crap, it’s starting. In hindsight, I should have called in sick, this day just dragged on and I couldn’t wait to be back home. I wouldn’t go abroad in your situation. So sorry!

Thank you for sharing you experience, I'm sorry you have had to go through this too!

If it was a UK holiday I would probably risk it because I know my OH will get me home if I needed to. With it being abroad, I just don't know how we would deal with the potential hospital trip, a different language which we don't speak etc.

I had exactly this at the 12 week scan. I naturally passed the miscarriage at before the follow up scan at 13 weeks. It was a miserable 24 hours physically and I bled pretty heavily for 3-4 weeks. I cried for 24 hours solid - not because I was sad about the miscarriage, I wasn’t actually that upset by that (not TTC, wasn’t even sure we wanted children), but hormonally it was a lot. I was actually crying because the queen had died, despite not caring one iota about the royal family before then, or after.

I mention those things as they would have impacted how much I enjoyed a holiday, but if I was in your scenario now, with all the experiences I have, I would still go on holiday.

I had MMC with an empty sac at around 11-12 weeks. Detected on a scan after spotting at 11 weeks.
If you've only discovered it as you were having a scan anyway then it might not pass naturally until after your holiday. If however, you had a scan because of spotting then it could well pass whilst on holiday. I didn't need to go to hospital at all but it was an unpleasant and painful few hours and then I bled heavily for the next few weeks. I'm sorry for your loss.
I did however then have a huge uterine bleed (think sudden gush of huge amount of blood) a few months later whilst away with work in Europe (I'm assuming it was retained material coming away). Had to be taken to hospital by ambulance, scanned and hooked up to saline for a few hours. Was then given transaxemic acid. I had to pay a small fee and show EHIC card (pre Brexit though) and work travel insurance paid me back.

I definitely wouldn’t go away. Claim on insurance. I was in quite a bit of pain after mine and had to have treatment as not everything happened naturally. Im so sorry.

I so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks and to be honest I would not have wanted to be away from home as there was quite a lot of bleeding and it was painful.
i had a missed miscarriage at 16 weeks so quite a bit later than you and after the scan got booked in for surgical management 5 days after, however it started naturally at home after 4 days and I ended up haemorrhaging very badly and was taken by ambulance to A&E urgently.
I would say to postpone your trip as you never know what could happen and even if it doesn’t happen while you’re away you’ll probably spend all your time waiting for it.
Surely your travel insurance cover you to postpone/cancel the trip?

Sorry for your loss.

I don’t think it would be sensible to leave the country.

I’m really sorry to say that I wouldn’t go - I’ve been in your position three times - the first MMC begin with bleeding naturally and I went from 0 symptoms on Thursday to fully miscarrying on the Sunday night and needing hospital treatment.

I elected surgical management for MMC 2 and 3 because of how MMC 1 went. MMC 3 I had the surgery on the Wednesday and went on holiday on the Friday (not in the mood but obviously prebooked) and I was tired but ok. All in all surgical management was by far the better option for me in terms of recovery.
i would definitely explore insurance if you have it - sorry - I know it’s a double blow to not go on holiday in an already awful situation x

Most the posters on here so far were further on than you. My MMC that measured 5 weeks was basically just a fairly heavy period physically and some mild cramping. I'm a fairly pragmatic sort so just went about my business as usual and could easily have gone on holiday.

Of course experiences will vary though.

I'm sorry you're going through this.

I’m so sorry. It’s awful but I would cancel the trip, I had medical management but it didn’t all come out and so they did it again then like a pp I haemorrhaged and had to be taken into hospital and operated on as an emergency. I wouldn’t want to deal with that somewhere unfamiliar or difficult, no matter how ok I felt at the start. It’s not that uncommon.