TTC third baby after loss

[strawberryfields90]

Hello, I am 35 and have two beautiful little girls (6 and 4) who I absolutely love to smithereens. Last Nov my husband and I conceived our third baby with the mindset of we won't pressure ourselves with TTC but just see what happens! Anyway we were over the moon when we found out however I sadly miscarried at 8 weeks naturally and since then I have been very up and down with it all. I would have been due next month and would have been winding down at work and nesting, decorating the nursery etc and it feels so sad. My husband said he is happy to try again if I am ready which I feel I am, but we have been trying since Feb and haven't fallen on yet which I know is no amount of time in the grand scheme of things, I am aware some people go through much more painful and longer time scales to conceive. I am so lucky to have my girls and a supportive husband, I just can't help feeling sad about losing my baby and what would have been, which I'm sure is adding to my sadness of not being pregnant again yet. Has anyone been in the same situation please? Not really sure what I am asking or looking for. Thank you for reading this far if you have!

You posted on my old post so I have replied there but just thought I’d bump this one for you too. It’s a really tough situation to be in but keep faith and hopefully you will get your number 3. Mine is now 3 months old 😊

@Zivas aw thank you so much ❤️ I am sorry for not seeing your replies sooner! I have replied to you on your original post, but thank you again for reaching out back to me it has given me some hope! And congratulations again on your baby boy 🥰 xx

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️

I had a miscarriage last year and I found the lead up to what would have been the due date to be the hardest bit, so can empathise. And that was my first pregnancy, so I felt that I didn’t really know what I was missing out on, so to speak - I imagine it’s even tougher and sadder if you do.

I did get pregnant again (just in time for the original due date) but that sadly also ended in miscarriage. But I wanted to message because (from my experience, and from all I’ve read) everything I’ve seen suggests that if you’ve had a successful pregnancy in the past (especially multiple pregnancies), you’re much, much less likely to have recurrent losses. It’s such a positive sign. So hopefully this was just an awful one off, and better times are around the corner.

Wishing you all the best!

Virtual support.
No matter how many kids or no kids it is still hard. I have two wonderful boys 4 and 2 and we have been TTC a 3rd since March 2025. Had 3 losses back to back then 5 months then another loss POUL (Pregnancy of Unknown Location) that was the worst as the miscarriage qent on for 5 weeks.
4 losses in a short space of time. I thought I would be part of the statistics of being able to have a healthy pregnancy but 4 in less then a year has really scared me.

I am 39 and we would love 1 more child to complete our family. And of course a girl would be wonderful to complete our family.

We are currently going to get testing myself next week and then my husband. Kinda scarey to admit you jave a problem. Makes ot feel more real. And the NHS have been pants.

Hi, I hope you are well. I saw your comment on another mum’s post regarding your situation and came across your original post. I just want to say I am going through the same thing as you but it’s still quite raw for me as I miscarried last week at 10/11 weeks (baby would have been the size of a strawberry hence my handle). I am 35 with 2 kids (6 and 3.5) and we have been trying for our third since last November / December and got pregnant this April which resulted in my first miscarriage but prior to conceiving I missed three periods. So for now I’m just waiting for my period to come to get hormone testing and get private testing to see what my egg reserve quality and quantity is but we have both agreed if my period comes back naturally on time we will try first cycle. I also understand your pain my scan would have been next Tuesday which is when we would have told people and instead I’m going to the GP to ask them for hormone testing and check my hcg levels etc. Our baby would have been due around December. I really want a third I have always wanted four but life and other plans have meant me getting older before that could become a reality and having two caesareans so for me a third baby is my complete family and I don’t know how to think of not trying unless medically I’m told there is a reason not to. My husband is the same he can take it or leave it so I feel guilty because if we have another heartbreak I would have been the one to put him through it. I’m hoping the testing and seeing how my period returns will provide some answers and some clarity and hopefully we will go on to conceive our third and final baby. Also having lost the baby and the pregnancy so suddenly at this stage just is incomprehensible all I want to be is pregnant again and going for my scan it’s hard to accept the reality of what happened so the hope of being pregnant again is kind of all that is keeping me going. I wish you all the best and all the baby dust in the world to you ✨ Xx