How to cope with miscarriage and baby talk?

[SVA]

I hope anyone else struggling finds some light at the end of the tunnel. I lost my baby at 6 weeks last Christmas, and as my due date approaches, I feel like my emotions are becoming harder to manage rather than easier.

I’m really struggling with conversations about pregnancy, especially as my partner’s brother’s girlfriend keeps talking about trying for a baby. Every time it’s mentioned, I end up in tears. I feel guilty because I never want to take away someone else’s excitement, but I’m finding it incredibly hard.

How do you cope when babies or pregnancies are so close within your family? Or when people share their own experiences? I want to be kind and supportive, but right now I don’t know how to protect my own feelings too.

Please be kind with your responses. 💛

@SVA its a horrible feeling. You want to be happy for them but you still have your own feelings of loss to deal with.
Sending you hugs, there is a miscarriage association who do counselling if it might help.
Sorry I don't know the website address x
Again, hugs x

I am so sorry for your loss. When I had my miscarriage, I was like you and just couldn’t cope with baby talk or other people being pregnant. I actively avoided my SIL whose baby was due at around the same time as me. Told DH that I couldn’t deal with it and didn’t go to family events. I found that once what would have been my due date had passed, I was able to cope better - I don’t know why. I also found that the arrival of SIL’s baby made things easier too.

im sure it’s connected - I fell pregnant within 2 months of that, perhaps because I relaxed and stopped feeling so angry and upset. (He will be 18 this summer so it’s a long time ago but I remember those feelings of ongoing distress very well)

We planted a magnolia tree in the garden on what would have been my due date. It turned a sad day into a positive and 18 years later it’s huge and gorgeous!

Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve as you need to x