Gift for Brother and SIL after miscarriage?

[Conversationalcheddar]

My brother has just confided in me that SIL is in the middle of a miscarriage. I’m close with DB and get on well with SIL when we see each other but we’re not close. I wanted to send them something to say I’m thinking of them. If you’ve been in their position, what would you appreciate?

Yes I got flowers and it was awful to watch them die

I don’t think anyone wants a “congratulations your baby has died!” gift. Or a memorial meal out - how miserable a meal would that be?

Honestly nothing is fine, and a card is the absolute most. I personally would have found a card intrusive, but I’ve seen other people on here kicking off because their SIL didn’t send one so very much person-dependent.

Personally the max I’d do is a card, but I think a supportive text is sufficient. I HATED getting flowers. Just felt like someone had died, which to me they had, but it compounded the sadness and I couldn’t bear to look at them. Just some acknowledgment that I was going through something was enough - any more just somehow made it worse. Appreciate this may be individual though.

Really hope you’ve taken heed of the majority @Conversationalcheddar

Agree.

Its not a ‘here’s a thinking of you gift’ type of situation imo.

They or he?

They or he?

Me too.

This is thoughtful and definitely would be well received to your brother's email I am sure.

Fwiw I got lots of flowers when I miscarried at 13 weeks and they were beautiful, a reminder of the love we had around us. I appreciate not for everyone, but just wanted to give a different perspective.