As the title reads basically, I’ve been left feeling really disheartened after this whole experience…I knew it wasn’t going to be pleasant, but held onto hope that I’d be fine at home and could
manage the loss but it just didn’t turn out like that. I’ve had two previous healthy pregnancies and DC
I had medical management as my body hadn’t recognised the pregnancy wasn’t developing for 4 weeks. Had the pressary’s inserted Thursday AM, sent home after 30 minutes. That afternoon I had intense contraction pains with minimal bleeding for 5 hours, nothing was passing and my temperature suddenly spiked to 40 with chills. We couldn’t get hold of the ward, so went to A&E where I was triaged and given a cannula for fluids (I was throwing up constantly). We were sent back to the waiting room, where one nurse came out and told me “open your mouth” and gave me a syringe never telling me what it was. Then a doctor came out asking about how much blood I was loosing, when did I loose the pregnancy, if I was passing clots….all in front of the full waiting room. He told me it was morphine in the syringe which explained the sudden sleepiness.
we were then sent to the ward, where we waited another 4 hours as the doctor wasn’t available yet. Not in a private room, just on chairs in the hallway. At this point I was on my hand and knees with the pain begging my partner to take me home so I can be more comfortable.
the doctor finally came, and she told DP he couldn’t come into the room with me as “you’ll be in the way”. My cervix was examined and she used forceps to clear it, a larger clot had gotten stuck which explained why I wasn’t passing anything but was in so much pain. I was squirming and crying the whole time and she kept telling me “you just need to get through it, just breath slower”.
Once that was over I was told to go home and to expect heavy bleeding and pain, but there was nothing the ward could do. I was sent home with antibiotics and Buscopan.
yesterday afternoon I finally passed the sac, it was obvious what it was. I didn’t expect it to upset me like it did, even though I thought I was prepared for it.
its just heavy bleeding now, with bad period and back aches but hoping that’s the worse of it over. I still have a high temperature and feel very dizzy/light headed (like when you’re drunk trying to sleep and the rooms spinning). I’ve tried the ward but no one answers and I can’t face another A&E experience like that.
I just feel so sad, shocked by the whole process and like the hospital don’t care or have time for me. They’ve never mentioned mental health support, and the whole saying “it’s just a heavy period” is nonsense in my experience. I just feel so rubbish, and I’m terrified to reach out to anyone because I already feel like I’ve made a clown of myself asking for help. They all just pushed me to the side as if “you’re not important, go home and deal with it”
just wanted a rant, and is it normal to feel so poorly still?? Weeing is agony, and I haven’t managed to go to the toilet as it’s so painful down there