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Waiting for confirmation of pregnancy loss and feeling left in limbo

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HLSav93 · 02/05/2026 12:39

Honestly, I'm going through a lot of ups and downs emotionally right now so I thought that sharing my experience as it is currently would probably help.

About 3 weeks ago I went for an early reassurance scan at what I would have thought would have been just under 8 weeks pregnant. The scan showed no development of a fetal pole and I was asked to come back a week later for an update scan. Second scan was the same with a little bit of sack growth and then I was referred to the my local Early pregnancy unit.

I've had one scan with EPU and they found the same but I've been asked to come back in 10 days time so I'm currently in the waiting game. All of these scans have indicated that it's not a viable pregnancy and I feel like I really just want to be able to move on, but I've been made to wait around even though the likelihood of anything else happening is incredibly low and it's very frustrating. In all of my appointments, it's been quite apparent that everyone believes that there's nothing that is going to progress.

In the meantime, I've started experiencing really light pink, bleeding and cramps. I feel like something's wrong and something needs to happen to assist me to pass. So I went into the urgent treatment centre and they try to refer me to the early pregnancy unit who refused to do anything to help. They stated to the nurse practitioner I was with that they don't feel comfortable helping because they could still be some growth and what they won't know anything until my scan on the 8th which was news to me as this has never been discussed with me at any point that them might still be growth.

Apparently my symptoms are more in line with a threatened miscarriage which has just confused me even further.

I feel misinformed. I feel like no one's discussed my options with me properly and just kind of left me in limbo. I feel incredibly frustrated and angry and I just want my body back.

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WeAreNotOk · 02/05/2026 20:48

Didn't want to read and run. I'm so sorry you are going through this. My own experience didn't drag on so long. I was told the fetus hadn't grown from 7 weeks til 13 so that was conclusive proof. They really should have explained everything fully to you. x

Mullaghanish · 02/05/2026 20:54

Bless you the 8 th is 6 days away.. I don’t know what to say to you.. I thought I was miscarrying once, but when I went back after 2 weeks ongoing bleeding, they found the baby was ectopic.and I had emergency surgery.. . then again my friend bled the whole way through her pregnancy and that kid is 14 now.. it seems there is limbo,and waiting in pregnancy.. I’ll be thinking and praying for you ..

HLSav93 · 04/05/2026 17:03

Update: TW
I've now had a natural miscarriage. All on all its taken me nearly 4 days from when the pain started.
I feel a sense of relief and like I can move on better, but I wish I had been able to have medical intervention as was my preference. It could have saved quite a considerable amount of distress.

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WeAreNotOk · 05/05/2026 00:59

Sorry for your update OP. I didn't want to say earlier, but that's what happened to me, and I was grateful for it. I was booked in for a D&C (I think, can't remember) but it happened naturally at home. The labour pains were the real thing, which in a weird way, surprised me. I barely felt the 'birth'. I'll always remember it and mourn the loss. Take care of yourself. Talk about it, it really helps. x

TheSweetestHalleluja · 05/05/2026 10:37

I am so very sorry for your loss, it is an incredibly difficult journey. I understand the need for closure to be able to move forward.

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