Pregnant again after miscarriage and worried about spotting and cramping

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Hi all, I had a complicated miscarriage which ended in January of this year. We were ttc since and I am currently pregnant, between 5-6 weeks. This morning I started spotting and cramping again so I’m pretty sure this will be another miscarriage. I’m just so devastated. I don’t even know what I’m asking, I just needed to put this out somewhere.

I'm sorry for your previous loss. Its so hard waiting to be able to conceive again, and then then having the roller coater of ttc. Then this.

Have you been in touch with an EPAU?

I haven’t yet as you can’t self refer but I’ve put a request in at the gp. It’s an absolute rollercoaster!

How's things going? Hope you're doing okay.

I had a scan yesterday, wasn’t particularly reassuring. Currently being classed as a pregnancy of unknown viability. They could see a yolk sac and a fetal pole but couldn’t confirm the heartbeat. The sonographer and the nurse said that it could just be too early but I’m guarding my heart as this is how it started with my last miscarriage. According to my dates I should be 6w1d which I’d have thought a heartbeat would be visible. They’re suggesting I’m more like 5 weeks which doesn’t match with when I got a bfp.
I have a rescan to confirm viability next week so it’s dragging out!
I just don’t want to go through this again.

Hello - couldn’t read and not reply. This sounds just like my situation. Nothing to say but sending love; it’s horrendous and the waiting is the worst. Be kind to yourself x

Thank you for your kind reply. I’ve had no more bleeding since my scan so I’m in that dangerous place of developing hope…
Thinking of you and your situation too!

I think this is one of those things where acceptance of the lack of control is... all you can do. Having hope won't change the outcome, and if it makes you feel better today, roll with it? It's unlikely to make you feel worse if things don't work out - as that's never going to not feel awful.

I had a MMC, and opted to 'wait and see'. There had been some confusion over dates and the sonographer had hesitated over the diagnosis, so my husband accused me of hanging onto the embryo "just in case". In truth, I think it was more that I couldn't face doing anything to the embryo that felt like I was aborting it, when I'd wanted that baby so much. Miscarried naturally in the end, but probably nearly 5 weeks after the pregnancy ended.

Have you spoken to many people in real life, or was it too early for anyone to know?

Just thought I would update in case anyone was in a similar position and searching (as I was!)
I had my follow up scan on Friday, baby was there measuring exactly what my dates would suggest. They could see a large sub chorionic haematoma which explains the bleeding. They did say baby has implanted “lower than is ideal” but that they weren’t particularly concerned about this and have started me on 800mg progesterone daily to hopefully help the pregnancy progress.
So as of today I am 8 weeks and cautiously hopeful!
thank you for your replies :)