Hospital in early miscarriage - handled correctly?

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I had a miscarriage at 6.5 weeks last week and am questioning whether how it was managed was correct.

After a couple of days of heavy bleeding and a few conversations with the early pregnancy unit they asked me to come in to check what was going on.

once I saw a doctor she allowed off she could examine me, without any mention of any active procedure. No painkiller or anaesthetic was offered. While I was being examined they said they would have to clean me up a bit, which I took to be removal of clots from vagina.

however when she came back into the room after taking off apron etc I was told that my cervix was very open, and that she had removed the pregnancy tissue. I didn’t ask many questions as I was in shock, and just signed the papers for sensitive disposal.

she did want me to stay in hospital but I wanted to go back to my own bed.

Now the shock has worn off I’m wondering If what was done to me, and how, was right.

I’m sorry for your loss. The cervix being open is a risk for infection, so they would want to remove tissue to let it close.

I’m sorry about your miscarriage. What did you think was happening? What do you think they should have done differently? Once you’re miscarrying, sadly there’s nothing they can do to retain the pregnancy in a viable form, and if th cervix is open, the baby is out. I had three under similar circumstances and whilst it’s deeply unpleasant, and painful, it’s nobody’s fault.

Yes that was the correct thing for them to do.

I'm sorry about your miscarriage. It was the right treatment but she should have communicated better- "cleaning up a bit" is not an appropriate way to refer to removing the pregnancy tissue especially if you didn't know at that stage that it was definitely not a viable pregnancy.

Hello.
What is missing here is information that should have been sensitively shared with you throughout this to keep you informed and let you know what was happening to you.

So while “medically” everything was done correctly and for very good reason, it should have been accompanied by explanations.

Im sorry that you are left with these questions and, please do ask away, there are many of us who can share our experiences that might help you to make some sense of it all.

The Doctor said she was going to examine me to see what was going on. If any action was necessary I would have expected a conversation after the examination, even if the best option was the one she took. Also maybe some form of pain relief before she did it (I understand being cautious about that prior to the examination as until my cervix was definitely open presumably they had to behave as though I might be in the first trimester)

The procedure was correct but the sensitivity and communication was lacking. I'm sorry for your loss, OP, I hope you find healing x