Missed miscarriage after first IVF transfer, looking for support and experiences

[chrisdavr]

New poster here, along with my partner.

This is my first post, and is made with my partner.

Sadly my partner has suffered a missed misscariage which was discovered today, at our 12 week scan (baby was sized at 8 weeks 5 days). This was our first cycle and first transfer on the NHS.

Obviously devestated. Everything had seemingly gone so well. Each milestone was literally great news, with no snags or setbacks. And then this.

The timeline went as follows:

Started IVF treatment early this year.

13th Jan: Following the meds, the last follicle scan showed 11 follicles, 7 big, 4 small.

16th Jan: Egg retrieval (ER), 12 eggs were retrieved.

17th Jan: Received call, 10 mature, of those, 9 fertilised via ICSI.

19th Jan (Day 3, post ER): Call to say 8 are still developing normally.

21st Jan (Day 5, post ER): Day of Egg Transfer. 5 Blastocysts that look good visually (No PGT-A testing offered on NHS). Of those 5, 4 were frozen, 1 was transferred fresh.

29-30th Jan (~9 Days Post Transfer): Evening, my partner did a pregnancy test, and we got a clear solid line. Next day on the 30th January, another test done and got another solid line.

6th Feb: Digitial Pregnancy Test reads "3+ weeks"

20th Feb: 7 Week Heartbeat Scan showed strong hearbeat, and good and regular sizing of everything.

30th March: Today, 12 week scan. Told there was no heartbeat, the baby was sized as stopped developing at 8 weeks.

This is where we are. All of that is to say, we have another 4 Embryos on Ice.
I guess, right now, all we are looking for is some advice, reassurance and any similar experiences too, maybe where things went well later to help get our hopes up. Anything of support would be really helpful and mean more than you can imagine.

Thankyou in advance!

Hello, my first round of IVF failed miserably - none of the eggs actually fertilised so we didn’t even get to implantation. I then had 3 more rounds of ivf (well technically ICSI), one fresh, two frozen. They all worked - I now have three gorgeous children! It is really hard, but the advice I’d give is see it as a marathon, not a sprint. You’re in it for the long haul, trying to create the family you want. It’s going to take time. Everyone’s journey is different. Try to keep busy, plan lovely things that don’t revolve around ivf, and keep loving your partner for who she is, regardless of what is happening on your baby-making journey. Good luck!

By the way, having embryos on ice is fantastic: that’s the hardest part done!

I’m so sorry for your loss and for not finding out until the 12 week scan, it’s really devastating.

You’re still in a really good position overall in terms of the cycle. With 4 embryos on ice you’ve got a very high chance cumulatively over the whole cycle of achieving a live birth. IVF on the NHS (without PGT) is really tough as you have to transfer one by one until you find your genetically good embryo.