It feels like the end of the world

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I fell pregnant while I was in an abusive relationship. I miscarried at 7 weeks. I cannot believe this has happened to me. I am in despair. I have OCD and it has skyrocketed, I can barely function. I don't know what to do. I always wanted a family, but I feel so broken now. Will I be okay? Has anyone been through something like this? I feel so alone. I went to a miscarriage support group and although they were lovely, they were all either sat with their husbands or talking about them and I felt so small and pathetic. I didn't go back. I don't know where to get support. I just feel like I am spiralling and I don't know what to do.

I’m going to be blunt but with your fragile mental health and an abusive relationships, perhaps this was a blessing in disguise?

Do you have a friend who could attend support groups with you?
One to one therapy may also be beneficial

OP, I know this feels brutal right now, but it's estimated that 1 in 5 pregnancies ends in miscarriage - possibly more. It's very, very common and many women go through it. I agree with the PP too - having a baby with an abusive man is a nightmare of it's own. You are tied to them for the rest of your life. That abuser is your baby's father. I know you're devastated about the miscarriage and that is understandable, but the best thing you can do is get support, speak to your GP about your MH and then seek to form a more healthy relationship in future, one in which it would be an unmitigated happy event to be expecting a child together.

https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk

Having just had a miss miscarriage myself, feel for you and I’m so sorry. I think you need to addressed the fact you’re in an abusive relationship and you need to be able to find a way to become free from that. Have you got support around you?xx

It's positive that it appears ypunare now put of the relationship.

Miscarriage is hard and it often seems forgotten that the hormone crash is significantly worse than the few days before a period and that can drag one down.

Yes you will be ok. It's a bump along the way albeit a big one. Remember you are not just grievong the pregnancy loss but also a relationship and a toxic one will have taken a bigger toll.

Be kind to yourself, see your Dr as you may need some clinical help if you are very depressed and seek support through talking therapies.

The positive way forward is to leve the past in the past and try not to fall into another relationship for comfkrt when you are vulnerable.