How to support someone who just had a missed miscarriage?

[Bennet123]

Hello. My SIL just had a missed miscarriage and I wonder how can I support her (and what to say) without overwhelming her (I tend to over giving/over functioning!)? I had an early miscarriage myself before my first and remember the loneliness and sadness but it’s nothing to what they’re experiencing now. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks all. x

Is she your brother's wife, or your DP's sister?

Either way, I think a kind text telling her you're thinking of her and sending lots of love (and, depending on how close you are, that you're there if she needs anything), and that there's no pressure on her to reply.

Then if you wanted to do something practical, offering to help with any existing DCs while she recovers would be nice. If she doesn't have DC then maybe send a voucher for eg. COOK meals - she may well be having surgery if it's a missed miscarriage, which can obviously be physically tough.

It’s good of you to care enough to ask opinions. It can be a lonely road recovering from miscarriage. One of the nicest things someone did for me was to gift me a plant and a card, a plant that flowers. It’s a permanent reminder of their care and that my baby existed. Also, sonetimes the worst time after a miscarriage can be a month or two months down the track when the acute emergency phase is over and everyone goes back to normal but you are grieving and feel alone. It’s never too late to acknowledge their grief and offer support. The loss will stay with her forever.