Very scared after 1 miscarriage and 1 eptopic

[Jenay]

This is my third pregnancy and it's very early, 4/5/6 weeks im not too sure but my hcg has gone up great and womb lining is getting thicker and is a good number to support a pregnancy but we still can't see baby on scan. The doctor doesn't seem worried and is expecting to see something on the next scan.
The first two pregnancies were a miscarriage and an eptopic that ruptured and required surgery so I'm finding it hard to be anything but terrified.
I want to be positive I'm worried my stress will cause a miscarriage but I'm absolutely terrified I don't think I have the strength for another loss and I don't feel as though I'll be able to relax until 12 weeks which feels a long way away.
I think I'm just hoping for some reassurance and success stories xx

Congratulations and I'm really sorry for your previous losses. I've had 2 losses in a row now too and am currently TTC again. I know it's hard to relax but do try and stay as calm as possible for yourself and for the baby.

I try to tell myself that no amount of worrying will change the outcome. Also, if the pregnancy didn't turn out to be successful, by worrying you would suffer twice.

My advice would be to keep busy and look after yourself. Read, watch something new on tv, go for walks, see family and friends. I'll be following my own advice when I next get pregnant as I get so anxious when pregnant!

I know how you feel, you have my sympathy, it's such a worry when you've experienced previous losses.

I had a miscarriage and a ruptured ectopic. When I became pregnant with DS I was offered an early scan due to previous history of ectopic pregnancy. Could you request that? On the first scan, which I think was at 6 weeks, they couldn't see much to confirm things were OK, so I had another the following week which showed a foetus with a heart beat in the womb. It was such a relief.
I then worried until the 12 week scan, after which I was less concerned.

I think you should speak to your midwife or the early pregnancy unit to arrange an early scan due to history of ectopic pregnancy. That's a medical reason to have one.

DS ('the foetus') is now a healthy 12 year old, so though it's a very worrying time for you, please take my story as a message of hope.

I was very similar to you and went on to have more children; early pregnancy does feel scary but hopefully in a few weeks you’ll feel more confident. Good luck!

I had a ruptured ectopic and a miscarriage too. I have since had two healthy children with straightforward pregnancies. I understand how worrying it can be; there’s some good advice above. Please look after yourself, and wishing you all the very best ❤️