Found out no heart beat - missed miscarriage - surgery option?

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I was supposed to go in for the NIPT yesterday evening at a private clinic as I thought I was 10 weeks. I had my first scan before the test and found out there was no heartbeat and baby looked to be sized at about 7 weeks.

The hospital is supposed to be calling me today. I've been trying to do my own research. Is the surgical option given this early? I really don't like the idea of taking pills to pass it out. I appreciate that might be what I have to do but I like the idea of not seeing the after effects, if that makes sense. Although I appreciate surgery is hardly appealing either.

If anyone has had the surgery option did you still think that was the best decision afterwards?

I'm so sorry you're going through this, it is truly awful finding out at a scan that there is no heartbeat.

I've had the ERPC twice now. I had concerns about scarring before, but was assured that this is very rare and both times was able to fall pregnant again easily. I felt much like you in that I didn't want to see anything upsetting and wanted it over quickly. In my case there was no pain, and physically I felt back to normal very quickly afterwards. The emotional side is another thing entirely, so I hope you can take some time to recover without the pressure of work. Finally, I found period underwear from M&S to be very helpful as I really hate pads and you need to for two weeks afterwards. I hope the next stage goes as easily and gently as it can for you, sending a big hug.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Yea, surgical management is definitely an option. I've had 4 now between 9-12 weeks (baby was measuring a bit smaller for each of them). It was the right decision for me because it was a clear cut line - fall asleep, wake up and that was the physical part of the miscarriage basically over with. It meant I could take time to process the emotional side xx

Thank you so much for your replies. I think that's the route I'll go. I'm booked in for a NHS scan to confirm everything later today so will find out more then. Sorry to hear about your experiences.

After bleeding continuously for 6+ weeks I had an Erpc after asking for one. I hadn't known it was an option until then and wasn't offered one. The relief that it was over was immense.. I'd definitely go that route again if the situation ever arose. ..

I had ERPC for the same reasons, I was v happy with that choice, but I will say I bled much more afterwards that I expected (not immediately, a few days later- I think I was at the more extreme end of ‘normal’) and while it was fine I wish I’d taken iron supplements or considered the physical effect it would have on my body. I actually ended up very run down, so I’d be aware of that and prepare to be kind to yourself and your body for at least a month after the procedure.

I've had an ERPC and an MVA for missed miscarriages at 7wks (which is similar to an ERPC but you are awake), they should allow you to choose.

So sorry for your loss. You will likely be given options, i’ve had 2 mc and both times attempted the pills at first but not everything came away, so both times ended up with surgery, which I just wish I did in the first place. The surgery is very quick and straightforward, and i was taken care of so well. For me physical recovery was a breeze, the mental side of it is a bit more complex, but you’ll get there, brighter days are ahead, take care x

I had MVA at about 9 weeks - pregnancy had stopped developing at around 6 weeks. I needed to go back to work (teacher and it was the first day of term two days later) so didn’t want the general anaesthetic and once we knew it was not progressing I just wanted things dealt with - taking my tablets and going home to wait was not an option I wanted. Honestly, it was fine - the worst part was the speculum but as soon as they changed to smaller one the rest was fine - I didn’t feel the anaesthetic injections going into the cervix or any sucking or pulling. I had gas and air there to use but didn’t need it. I had bad cramps later that day and on and off for about a week (usually followed by passing a clot, sorry TMI) but on day 7 it all finished.

I’d read horror stories of how you see and hear it all coming out but I really didn’t. They were very careful to be thoughtful and caring the whole way through. I went home an hour afterwards, which was where I wanted to be.

I had the surgery, very many years ago now, the surgery was fine no bleeding. The ward at the time was horrible a load of women having abortions (for social reasons) and bragging about how easy/convenient it was. While I was heartbroken.

I had a D&C. I was 12 weeks but baby measuring 10/11. It’s over before you know it and I remember feeling relieved as I’d had to wait 5 days between finding out and the surgery. So while I was of course devastated there was relief there too that it was over.
Im so sorry you are going through this. I had 3 mc’s in a row. So sad.

Thank you for your replies and sorry to hear about your stories. It must be so devastating and draining to have multiple miscarriages.

I’m booked in for the surgical procedure on Thursday - the one without general anesthetic. I might get an earlier appointment if they have cancellations. I’ve also started to have some brown discharge and a little blood so I do wonder if it’ll happen before then.

So sorry. I also did the surgery, under GA. I would do so again.

I’ve had 2 MMC.
first one the medication worked but was horrific. So painful. The process took around 4/5 hours after the medication.

2nd time I tried the mediation twice, my body had already started trying to pass everything before this so I think that’s why it dint work. I needed the survey but they left me so long I was almost septic. Given what I know now, if your body has started things naturally and it doesn’t work I’d go straight for surgery. The medication was useless and prolonged everything. I opted for GA as I wasn’t aware you could be awake, in hindsight I’m glad I didn’t see/hear anything even if the recovery was rough. I suffered a big bleed afterwards but that was in November, I’m now 8 weeks pregnant, I found my cycle came back quicker after the surgery

good luck with yours I hope all goes well.

Will be thinking of you. 🌺

I forgot to say they will give you the tablets as a pessary before the MVA to soften the cervix in preparation. And also I think I was very lucky as our early pregnancy unit has a little day ward where I went. I didn’t have to go onto the maternity/gynaecology wards which I am not sure I would have been ok with.

If you do start cramping and bleeding it might be worth letting them know. I was told I could go in and be on the ward if that happened because I was scared of it happening at home.