MMC 17+3

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My heart is completely broken, we finally fell pregnant after 2 years of trying and everything seemed to be going okay. NHS scan at 14w and we could see heart beat, baby was wiggling about.

Went for a private scan yesterday at 17+3 to check on things and hopefully find out sex of baby and they couldn't find a heartbeat, it looks as though baby died just after my NHS scan at 14 weeks and my body just hasn't realised.

We had let ourselves get excited, we were hopeful that the worst was over and it feels as though the rug has well and truly been pulled from underneath us.

Have to wait until monday for hospital to contact me for scan to confirm and discuss options, so now I'm just here, pregnant but not really pregnant.

Oh my goodness, I am just so incredibly sorry. There is nothing we can say to make a horrendous situation better, but there are many people here who have been where you are and will sit in solidarity with you. I have had 3 MMC, albeit in first trimester so I can’t fully identify with your situation and I know I would have felt more “safe” at that time too.
im so sorry 💔

Thank you, I didn't think we would be lucky enough to get pregnant so the fact it happened was wonderful. It's just nice knowing you're not alone, although it's a horrible club to be part of

I am so so sorry 😔 any loss is heartbreaking but when you get further along you start to properly let your walls down and get excited. You did nothing wrong in getting excited. I've had 4 MMCs and a neonatal death at 22 weeks pregnant. I had just started to let myself believe it might be happening for real this time.
Be as gentle to yourselves as you can be, it's an incredibly difficult time. My DMs are open if you ever need to message x

Thank you, I'm so sorry for your losses 💖

Not sure if anyone is reading this but I just wanted to come back and say the medical management was not as bad as I worried. Midwives were incredible, pain was managed and my partner was my absolute rock.

Feeling tired but no pain now. Home, resting and trying to be in a positive mindset that we will get our rainbow 🌈

No words, just a huge hug. I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how awful that must be. Be kind to yourself. I had one miscarriage before DS and three miscarriages between DS and DD, but they were all first trimester. 17 weeks would be utterly shattering. Both my DCs are now healthy and robust. Hold onto hope 🌈

Thank you, it's so reassuring to hear of other people going on to have babies 💖.