Anyone decided to stop TTC?

[Lilly1111]

I’ve found out I’m having my third miscarriage. I’m 42 and have no children. There is a part of me that freaked out about having a child and another that mourns the loss. I haven’t gone down the IVF route but discussing this option but part of me feels like I don’t want anymore medical intervention or poking and prodding and tests. Has anyone decided to stop trying or not do IVF?

Yes, but it was regarding a second child.

However very very desperate to have another, first was very much not expected, told could have children and to be honest a freak out situation so felt very different desperately wanting a child. However, we decided it wasn't a route we wanted to go down (we'd had friends who had so had a good grasp of all it involves), tried for about 18 months, husband had had cancer a few years before and I had various issues that impacted fertility and we got to the point that we accepted our fate essentially. Now 4/5 years on and still go through times when times of regret, then times of being glad, but one thing I don't regret is not doing ivf, for some reason I feel quite at peace with that decision for us.

It's very difficult op, I am the same age as you so get your life stage too. All I can say is that you can have a happy life whatever decision you decide xx

@Lilly1111 I'm in quite a similar boat to you. 42, no children and have had two MMC's and a TFMR in the past 18 months. We are getting close to the point of stopping, have discussed IVF with PGTA testing with a specialist and decided the odds are too low. That being said, as we seem to conceive relatively easily and doctors say we have a good chance trying naturally. We're going to give it until the end of the year, be as healthy as possible, take Coq10 and Omega3 and Ovum for egg quality and hope for the best. At least then I'll be able to say we gave it a really good shot. I'm sure there will be immense sadness if we do stop, but on the flip side, there is a part of me that really wants my life not to revolve around TTC for years and years.

To give you a bit of hope, I was on a 'pregnant over 40' thread last year and there were a number of women who were mid-40's, some of whom had had multiple losses- they all got their babies. I think a lot of it depends on how much you can take. I am so sorry for your loss and wishing you lots of good luck :).

Thank you all, I may look at the pregnant over 40. I’ve had my D&C and just feel a bit all over the place. Xxx

So sorry for your losses
I had quite a few miscarriages. I did some research and found agnus castus which helped me conceive my first baby. Have a read up. I used the A Vogel drops. I’m a scientist anyway, and decided I’d not stop, put my ‘science head’ on and just carried on going thicko g if I have more MC I’d just move on again. I had my first baby at 37 and second at 40
good luck with whatever you chose to do

I started trying at 39. Had a couple of natural conceptions but they ended in MMC. Had 4 rounds of IVF and managed one pregnancy that also ended in miscarriage. The last one was at 43. I stopped after that.