MMC diagnosed at 13 weeks scan

[anniehall12]

Hi mamas. I was supposed to be 13w2d (I had HG)..anywho, I went for my first scan and no heartbeat. The sizes indicate the baby stopped at 8 weeks. I've had zero miscarriage symptoms and instead still been vomiting and recieving treatment for HG. So that means for 5 weeks I've been walking around with a missed miscarriage...nearly 9 weeks of HG for nothing...I still have to wait another 5 days for the surgical Management. I expressed my concern of what will be having pregnancy tissues inside of me for what will be a total of 6 weeks. But the Dr had no concerns. I am completely shattered btw. 😪 Don't know the point to this post really. I just want to stay in bed forever. Xxx

I am so sorry to read this. My heart truly goes out to you. I also had HG and MMC at 10 weeks on my last pregnancy. Baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks. My HG symptoms were still ongoing for about a week after the surgical management. Please be kind to yourself. This is so tough.

Thank you so much for commenting. I'm so sorry your loss also. It is such a shock to the system and the waiting for the management doesn't seem to make it any easier. Sending love x

This happened to me a long time ago. 12 week scan. Baby had stopped growing at 8. My vomiting had improved a lot though so I knew something wasn’t right. I still felt really ill but not as extreme. I went onto have two successful pregnancies both with HG later on. The surgical management is good as you’ll be physically better soon and I personally just wanted to try again asap. It’s absolutely awful though. I’m so sorry for your loss x

I’m so sorry. I had the same. It broke me completely. Take some time to think about your options and be open with those close to you about what you need. I found reaching out & having honest conversations with people really humbling and helpful.
The surgical route for me was quick and physically helped. The mental battle is the hardest.
There is a wonderful social media group - The Worst Girl Gang Ever. It helped me at my lowest.

Hi, I have justt gone through exactly the same. Also had HG symptoms way past when baby had stopped growing. I had my surgery on Tuesday and the next day all HG symptoms had ceased. It took from 8th Jan until this Tuesday to go through the rescan, await for my appointment for surgical management. It felt horrible to be still suffering from HG with 'no reason' and I was also worried about being left so long.

I am really sorry that this has happened to you as well

Feeling really sad for you, I had exactly the same - MMC at 13 weeks and HG up to the date and beyond. It is really hard waiting for treatment I agree, especially when you're still feeling sick the next day 😔 It took me a long time to not feel sad about it, 7 years on and a further pregnancy (I have two dc) and I'm at peace with it but I never forget my due date and think of it every year. Hope you've got lots of support round you? Take your time with it, I fully allowed myself to grieve and found the Tommy's website and instagram community helpful.

Also so sorry for Cosy Seal, I missed yours. Feeling for you both, it was a really hard time in my life and am so sorry you're both in the thick of it just now.

Thank you everyone for taking your time to comment. I'm so sorry for your losses. It's such a shame we have to go through this. I am really struggling, much more than I was on the day or the day after I found out. Now I'm worrying about the cons from surgical management and may well go ahead with the medication management. I feel super depressed! I'm at the EPAGU now waiting to do blood test and swaps. I'm so sorry to you all and thank you again xxx

Like I said, I went through this on Tuesday, I also had surgical management under GA and it was fine. The staff at my hospital were lovely, and I was out within a few hours once I felt about more awake and they were satisfied that I was fine up on my feet.

I was nervous of it all but I was not given anything to worry about and felt the staff were tactful and empathetic and they actually.made me feel really relaxed about it all.

If I can answer any questions for you about my experience, please let me know

I was worried too but I’ve spent a lot of time on miscarriage forums and I would not recommend it after reading countless stories. Plus you may up up with a d&c after medical anyway.

I'm really sorry you're going through this. I hope my experience can help you as I've been through 2 MMC in the last 2 years. I took the medication route the first time and the surgical route the second time; i highly recommend the surgical route.

The medication route was very traumatic (4 weeks of on and off heavy bleeding, lost so much blood i ended up anemic and had to have an iron infusion, took about 6 weeks and i felt like hell). Surgical route was a million times better, went to sleep, woke up and it was done, felt better very quickly, didn't need any painkillers and so much easier emotionally.

Thank you all for your comments. And once again I'm so sorry that we have suffered pregnancy loss. It's definitely changed me as a woman. With 2 healthy living children with no previous pregnancy or labour complications, this has been a huge shock to my system and opened my eyes more into all of the hardship us females go through in this life.

So on the day I found out that I was experiencing a missed miscarriage I opted to go with the surgical option (I had to make that decision right after the scan whilst sobbing my heart out) when I heard about pain and bleeding I just thought surgical seems best. But after doing some research and deep thinking what would be best for me I decided to go with medical management. I did not want to get put to sleep, nor take the risk of potential complications even if it's a slim chance. I also felt surgical was too clinical for me and would much preferred to go through my loss at the comfort of my own home, with my husband. (Of course this is such a personal choice and I'm just putting it out there). I made my bedroom and toilet very calm and relaxing. I had everything prepared beforehand, pads, underwear, water, medication, etc. I burned candles and dimmed the room.

I started around noon... Within an hour of taking the 4 vaginal tablets (I took 1 dihydrocodeine and 2 paracetamol at the same time), my waters broke (I was never warned by a nurse or doctor that waters at this stage was even a thing but it definitely was waters) and within 10 mins of that, the pregnancy tissue was expel, I felt it moving down and slide out... it was pretty obvious that it was my tiny precious baby with the sac. It gave me a huge comfort to see this and allowed my emotions to flow. It wasn't no where near painful as I expected. I had no labour type pains, no contractions, just quick period cramps that would come and go. The bleeding was heavy so I spent a couple hours back and forth to the toilet changing my pads. Large blood clots passed but were not painful. By 8pm the heavy bleeding completely slowed down and it's now like a medium flow period. I took no further pain killers and have no pain since. Fingers crossed things remain this way, and when I go back in 3 weeks that everything is gone.

Overall this has been much better than I expected in respect of pain and bleeding. Of course it's still very emotional and hard Im luckily enough to have an amazing husband who didn't leave my side.

However I am glad I was able to make an informed choice on what I felt was right for me rather than choosing the surgical route out of fear from what the HCP were telling me.

I know everyone is different and some women have a horrible experience that ends them back in the hospital. I thought it would be important for me to put my experience here for anyone searching. I am happy to answer any questions. Xx

Sending love and hugs to anyone reading this. Also sending baby dust to anyone TTC again xxxx