When do you let yourself get excited?

[CotBedMug]

I’ve had chemical pregnancies, I have the unfortunate trait of felling very sick about a week before my period is due if I’ve conceived. Which means I and very aware of chemical pregnancies. It isn’t just a case of waiting to test until after my period is due. I seem to know as soon as implantation happens…

I have no idea now how I will process a pregnancy that proceeds after my period is due. I think I’ll get really excited just to make it to 5 or 6 weeks. But as we all know that is not out of the woods. The grief from the chemicals has hit me so hard I want to protect my mental health a bit.

I wondered when others start to relax and let themselves get excited?

For me, I didn't really start to relax until after my 20 week scan and could feel him move regularly so knew he was okay.

It’s such a long time to wait isn’t it! I’m sure I’m going to shell out a small fortune in extra scans when the time comes 🤦🏻‍♀️

I've had 3 miscarriages - 2 after 7 weeks, and 1 chemical. I'm now pregnant again and I started to relax after the dating scan, even though I had 2 previous scans too. There's still that doubt though that the heartbeat might've stopped later- I'm now 14 weeks. If all your losses were very early, hopefully you can relax sooner than I did!