I have a friend who's a single mum of a wonderful little boy. She's been trying for over a year to give him a sibling. Unfortunately several IVF treatments have resulted in negative pregnancy tests, except one which resulted in a missed miscarriage earlier this year (at her 12 week scan it was discovered the baby had passed away 4 weeks earlier and there had been no symptoms). Now she has miscarried again at 7 weeks, and I don't know what I can say or do to support her. I don't want to be overbearing, but I also want her to know I'm here for her.
What might make matters a bit more difficult is that I'm 15 weeks pregnant with my second child myself, even though I know she's happy for me. I told her via a text a few months ago, so she had time to process it in her own way (this was before she knew she was pregnant herself) and she was very happy.
At the moment we're both in different countries, and won't be in the same country again until 2 weeks from now, so I can't visit or send her anything. Once we're both back in the UK, I'll go visit and drop off a care package.
I'd really like to hear from anyone who suffered a miscarriage and what helped them. I'm so angry and so sad but I desperately want to avoid making that obvious because then it's about my feelings and not hers. I can't imagine anything people say would be helpful, except for "I'm here for you" and "Call me anytime", which I've already said multiple times.
Thanks in advance for any advice you can offer.