Pretty sure I am having a miscarriage-what happens now?

[SugaryBits]

I am 7 weeks pregnant and have had heavy bright red bleeding since last night. I am going to go to the doctors this morning. Will they send me for a scan or just tell me to wait and see what happens?

They'll send you for a scan I think. And they might take blood over several days to see if your hcg is rising or falling.

So sorry you're having this stress. I hope everything works out for you. As idiotic as it may sound, try not to worry to much.

Thanks. I am suprisingly not getting into a state about it. I know that there is absolutely nothing anyone can do to stop this from happening so feel quite resigned to the fact really. A friend has offered to have my DC today so hopefully I can get the scan today and find out one way or the other.

The exact same thing is happening to me. ;0(

I have been bleeding on and off for about 4 days and yesterday it turned bright red and got a bit heavier.

I have swung from being very emotional to trying to say to myself 'what will be, will be'. Its very hard.

I am going into the early pregnancy clinic at the hospital to hopefully find out what is going on.

Fingers (and toes) crossed for everyone.

xXx

Not wanting to hijack the thread, bit thought I'd let you know what is going on for me...

They scanned and saw no evidence of pregnancy or of miscarriage.

So either I am branch spanking new pregnant so no baby can yet be seen (less than 4 weeks) or I have had/am having an early miscarriage.

I need to be scanned again in two weeks to find out. The lady was baffled, and so am I, but at least its not a no hoper yet. Just need to remain calm and hope things work out for the best.

Thinking of you SugaryBits.

Lots of hugs to you both sugary and duke - the EPU is the best place to go to in the first instance and then its a case of looking after yourself and seeing what happens - all very frustrating I know (I had mc over Easter this year) but true unfortunately. They can do a scan internally as well as normal tummycam and that catches heartbeats earlier. Did they give you that option duke

Good luck to you both...

Nope, just the normal scan thingy. Think they thought I was going mad as they did the scan before the wee stick test and I think they thought I was making it up. Though that could be me being paranoid!

Will ask next time if I am still testing positive. Now how to stop myself weeing on a stick every bloody day????

Hi everyone. Duke, sorry you are going through this too.

I went to the EPU, they did a vaginal scan and could not see a pregnancy in the womb. They think I have probably miscarried but as they can not actually see the pregnancy they have to treat it as a "pregnancy of unknown location". I have to go back Friday morning to have a blood test to check HGC levels. If they have fallen then I am having a normal miscarriage, if they have stayed the same then it is probably ectopic. Because of the amount of blood loss I am pretty sure it is a straightforward miscarriage but we'll see.

Duke, I hope you get a better outcome.

I took a home pregnancy test today and although it was still positive, it was much much fainter than before. That means HGC levels have fallen and therefore I have had/am having a miscarriage, doesn't it?

I'm not sure I would rely on a home pg test to tell you accurate levels. Did they do a blood test when you went to the EPU? They should be able to tell whats happening by testing you 48 hours after first test.

I hope things work out for you x

They only did a simple home pregancy test type thing. No blood test.

I think that they think that in 2 weeks I will either test positive or negative. And then I'll know.

But of course, I have been super scared and am planning on testing every day.

Think I know in my heart of hearts that its a no go.

Duke, I don't mean to worry you but it sounds a bit odd. The doctor in the EPU I went to said it is very important to rule out the possibility of an ectopic pg, even though I know that with the level of blood loss I have had it is extremely unlikely that it is anything other than a miscarriage.

It seems strange that your hospital is happy to leave you for so long without having seen a pregnancy in the womb. It also seems stange they did a normal scan, not a vaginal one.

2 weeks is avery long time to leave you worrying about this. Have you thought about giving them a call to ask for a blood test?

SugaryBits, I appreciate your concern.

Sorry to be a bit thick, but if its ectopic, that means it hasn't made it to the womb, doesn't it?

So, treatment-wise, would it be any different if it was miscarriage or an aptopic pregnancy?

Wouldn't they both 'work their way out'? Or is an ectopic more dangerous and need different treatment?

An ectopic pregnancy is one in the fallopian tube. It can be quite dangerous and needs treatment.
The doctor at the EPU said if I was having a miscarriage I could let nature take its course or have a D&C.

I'm really sorry if I have worried you, obviously I am by no means a professional and the doctors at your EPU have treated you how they see fit. I just find it odd we have had such different treatment in such similar circumstances.

Hi Duke, how are you?

Hi.

Am knackered! Finally gave up on doing a half arsed job at work (as I have been doing all week) and took today off. Have slept on and off all day up til now.

I just think my body and mind are shattered.

How are you?

Sending virtual hugs your way.

Duke.

xxx

I'm ok thanks. I went back for another blood test this morning. The hospital rang last night to say my HCG level was over 1000 so I definitely needed to go back. I will hopefully get the results today.

Emotionally I am doing ok, had a good cry the other night and feeling calmer now. Physically not doing too bad, bleeding still very heavy and cramping quite a bit, but bearable.

We're taking the kids to Butlins next week so I'm disappointed I won't be able to go swimming with them- I expect they'll spend most of the time in the pool! The nurse today said the bleeding will probably continue 7-10 days.

Hope you have a good rest. Thinking of you x

SugaryBits, how are you doing today?

My bleeding has calmed down alot and the cramps are now only for a few hours of the day rather than pretty much constant. So my physical symptoms are becoming easier, just wish I could fast forward to my hospital appointment so I can find out for sure one way or the other.

Thinking of you too.

xXx

Hi Duke

I have been away this week, so sorry I haven't replied. Have you had your appointment yet? I hope you are doing ok.

I am fine, bleeding has stopped now. Hospital said not to TTC until I have had 2 normal periods... not sure what to do really.

Hi, both of you. Just wanted to say I'm sorry to hear what you're going through... I had an early miscarriage just over a year ago and it feels like yesterday. I haven't conceived again yet BUT there were several months where we weren't trying - I do know of lots of people who have miscarried and then got pregnant quickly again, so everyone is different.

It can take a while to feel back to normal, physically and emotionally... Just try to concentrate on resting and taking care of yourself. They say to wait for a few periods partly to give your body time to recover but I think it's also partly to make it easier to date any future pregnancies.

Take care of yourselves... I know it's really distressing but it will get easier, I promise. xx

Hi.

MsG - thanks so much for your kind words.

I am still bleeding - this is my third week. Still feel very drained and dizzy and sleepy.

My appointment at the Early Pregnancy Clinic is this Thursday, so still almost a week to go.

Got a negative pregnancy test last night, so I guess that means I have definately miscarried.

Also went to a friend's leaving do last night - she is 8 months pregnant and although I am happy for her of course, there was also a bit of me that thought, this isn't fair! And then of course, I feel guilty for thinking that. ;(

In a way I just want confirmation of that so I can start dealing with it properly rather than having this thought that miracles do happen.

If I still haven't stopped bleeding by the time of my appointment I will ask them if I can have a D&C (is that what is called) as I can't imagine feeling this physically awful for any longer and being able to function and/or deal with it in my head.

This baby wasn't planned so I won't be TTC in the near future, but hope it will happen for me one day.

My bestest buddy is coming over to see me today and we are going to get some yummy nibbles and hire some DVDS and just chill out together. I am ridicilously looking forward to it - just a bit of TLC will do me good I think!

Take care and hugs to everyone going through this.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I hope!

Duke.

Duke, maybe try to get into the clinic earlier for peace of mind. I know what you mean about wanting it confirmed - I was the same, even after I'd had an internal scan that showed no baby was there. You just need it confirming officially, don't you?

Don't feel guilty about how you feel about your friend's pregnancy - that's totally natural, and your friend would understand. I've been in similar situations several times now in the last few months!

I am sure your bleeding will stop soon - is it still getting lighter? If it gets any heavier or your dizziness gets worse, I'd go along to hospital to get checked out. Sounds as though it is stopping, though.

Hope you have a nice evening with your friend - should cheer you up a bit.

I know it's not much comfort now but the fact that you've miscarried does show that you can conceive, which is positive for the future.

Take care. xx

Hi Duke, so sorry to hear you are still bleeding and feeling bad. Could you ring the EPU to get an earlier appointment? A week is such a long time to be in limbo.

I know what you mean about seeing other people pregnant. When I was away this week I saw a heavily pregnant woman chain smoking and drinking and I was so angry, doesn't seem fair when I did everything right!

I hope you have a good day with your friend today. Thinking of you x

Hi Duke, just wondering how you are? Was your appointment today?

Hi.

As I thought the nurse confirmed a miscarriage at the EPC.

She basically did a pregnancy test which was a very feint positive, almost not there and handed me a letter to give to the doctor and sent me on my way. All over in 10 mins.

At least I can get over the tiny winey hope I had that it would all be OK, as I just knew.

Am trying to look after my myself now and have had copious glasses on wine over the weekend as obviously I can drink now. Would rather have my baby, but trying to be positive and look after myself.

I am starting to feel a bit better physically and think I have finally stopped bleeding.

Thanks so much or supporting me though all of this, its been so nice to have your support and understanding.

xXx

Aw sorry duke. Look after yourself.