Miscarriage at 6 weeks - coping with the loss and increasing chances next time round.

[BabyW26]

Hi all, at 5 weeks I started to spot, at 6 weeks the blood got heavier and within 3 days I began to heavily clot and miscarry. Unlike others experiences, I have not been in a great deal of physical pain other than mild to moderate cramping. We were in A&E last night and had the internal check my cervix which then confirmed active miscarriage.

I expected this after passing large clots through the day, but it doesn’t make it any easier. I can not stop crying and feel totally empty and pathetic. This is my first pregnancy, I don’t smoke or drink and I’ve tried to do everything right to promote a healthy pregnancy.

I understand if it’s going to happen, it will happen. However I’m posting today to ask for a little bit help on how to process this. How to stop crying every time I think about it and what your personal experiences were/are with miscarriage and continuing to have a healthy pregnancy and baby after. How quickly did it take?

Any advice will be taken on board

From mother to mother to be ☹️ thank you.

I am so sorry you’re going through this. I can relate to everything you’re saying, it is just so sad. Everyone is different, but I will say that it started to get better for me after 2 weeks. I was grateful to be able to take 2 weeks off work and went for long walks, cooked and watched uplifting films (I have a list if you need it). I felt considerably better after my next period and made sure I was looking after myself as much as possible, eating lots of fibre and protein, keeping hydrated and doing yoga and weight training. I also started a better quality prenatal. Ovum is good. It really helped to feel like I was doing something proactive. The good news is that most miscarriages are one-offs, especially if you’re young. Sending you a big hug, you will get through this. Promise.

@FletchasketchI’m lucky to have over Xmas off work, meaning only 2 days left at work then I can try chill out lots of walks and movies as you said. I think that list would be helpful actually, if you can send it? Thanks for the great advice, I’ll follow your guidance and hopefully perk up soon.

Of course- some are quite sad in parts, many are about personal struggle, but all left me feeling uplifted in the end.
-Forest Gump
-Up
-Driving Madeleine
-Untouchable
-Driving Madeleine
-La Vita e Bella (wonderful, wish I could watch this again for the first time)
-The Salt Path (if you can get past the fact that it's not true, it's still a lovely film)
-The Pursuit of Happyness
-Good Will Hunting
-A Good Year
-MicMacs
-Pride

many of them have subtitles, but I promise you they are worth it. I'd also recommend Ted Lasso and Schit's Creek if you're looking for series to watch.

Hang in there, you will feel better in your own time. Sending big hugs xx

@Fletchasketch thank you so much xx

@BabyW26 I'm going through a similar experience to you at the moment. Miscarrying at home at around 6 weeks. Can I ask how you're feeling now? Does it feel better with time? I feel like people can be quite dismissive as it was 6 weeks. I felt OK at first but it's hit me hard today on my last visit to the EPU for blood work.