I had a miscarriage and I keep blaming myself

[CaringCapybara]

I recently had a miscarriage and I keep blaming myself. I live with my husband and and his mother. The mother expects me to wash her dishes and clean after her. I always tidy after myself. I always keep communal areas clean and she is very messy and unhygenic. She messes areas up within hours of me tidying up. I have gotten to a stage where I just try to cook around her mess because im sick of cleaning up constantly. She talks down to me alot and I have never spoken up for myself. She put me under extreme pressure when I was pregnant and I keep blaming myself for my miscarriage. Please advise me. I was 6 weeks pregnant when I lost my baby on 31st October 2025. My heart is broken. Am I to blame to my pregnancy loss? I was under too much stress.

No. Not your fault at all and a natural phenomenon. Commiserations.

I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Unfortunately 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage and it’s no one’s fault. Is there anyone you can talk to about it, a family member or a friend?
I suppose you have no option about your living situation and no choice to live anywhere else. Can you speak to your husband about talking to his mother or is that out of the question?

No it is definitely not your fault. 💐 Pregnancy loss, especially early on, is very common. A nurse told me that it is also more common to lose your first pregnancy than subsequent ones as your body adjusts to its new state. Your living situation sounds difficult though. Is there any way you could change this?