Holiday next week

[OneBigToDoList]

Hi all, I started having cramps and bleeding this morning. Have been scanned and it was inconclusive - if my dates are right it’s not good, if they’re wrong it could be OK. I have to go back in a week, but I’m still bleeding and cramping so it’s not looking good. I’m devastated.
To add to this we have a holiday booked with my family the day after my scan next week. They don’t know I’m pregnant. I just don’t know what to do. The nurse advised that if the pregnancy isn’t viable but I haven’t passed it yet (sorry I don’t know the right language to use) they wouldn’t advise me to travel, and I wouldn’t want to to be honest. But I’m wondering if there is a chance it could all be over by next week?
Had anyone else been in this situation with a trip and what did you do? It’s my first miscarriage.

Sorry, I should have added that I’m 7 weeks and the holiday is abroad.

I'm really sorry you're experiencing this. I've been here before and going through the same now (except for the trip this time around).

My first loss I was going on a trip with my husband. I went on the trip and miscarried abroad. However I was very happy I went on the trip and didn't stay at home depressed. I knew I was going to miscarry so I was able to drink as normal and have as good of a time as I wanted.

However if you don't feel like going on the trip anyway and you'll be with people you don't feel 100% comfortable being yourself with (i.e. crying if you need to, being unhappy if you need to) without judgement then don't go. The best thing you can do is be around someone/people you're 100% able to be yourself with and can have a nice time with.

Feel free to ask me any questions if you want to.

Hello, thank you so much for your reply, I’m so sorry you’re going through this too. I think if it is medically safe to do so I would like to go - I think it would be a good distraction and we would have our own space if I did get upset or need some time alone. I guess I just have to wait. I hope this isn’t too personal to ask, and if so please ignore, but how long did the process take for you? My cramps have stopped and the bleeding has slowed but still there and now passing clots so I think it is happening.

@Sunshine1621 sorry forgot to tag you

@OneBigToDoList so sorry for what you are going through.

I went abroad two weeks after starting naturally - although I had a day of passing the tissue initially my bleeding carried on for several weeks (like a medium period) and I had a few nights of terrible cramps whilst away which I found even more difficult being away from home.

Go with how you are feeling - its good you will have your own space if upset or any ongoing symptoms, weigh up how you may feel being away vs at home

wishing you all the best and a speedy recovery xxxx

You can ask me anything, if I can help I will 🙂

The first three losses I passed the main pregnancy sac 4 days after my bleeding started. Before and after the pregnancy sac passed I bled either lightly or heavily (depending on which loss) approximately 1-2 weeks after.

With this pregnancy I took progesterone for the first time and because of the progesterone it's taking a lot longer for my body to expel the pregnancy sac. Causing me a lot of mental and emotional.stress. I started bleeding very lightly 12 days ago and I still haven't passed the main tissue. Feel really frustrated by it all. I may write a post actually seeing if anyone has any advice.

Sorry you are going through this, it’s so heartbreaking and stressful.
My experience with loss (13 weeks)
Spotting on 1st day, which all slowed by 2nd day. Some on and off light cramping.
3rd day evening, overnight and 4th day morning, very heavy bleeding/clots, and labour like cramps (could time them)
By last day almost back to normal physically, emotionally took over a year though.
Be kind to yourself xx

@Utardelis thank you so much, sorry this has happened to you too. Everything is quite mild at the moment so I’m just worried about things suddenly getting worse away from home. I’d rather not have to tell my family but may not have a choice. It’s just adding an extra layer of stress but I guess I’m lucky it has happened now so I can decide x

@Sunshine1621 thank you so much, I appreciate it, it’s helping me to get my head around what might happen. I’m sorry, that must be so upsetting, I’m sure there will be someone on here who has been through the same and could offer advice xx

@WildWildHorses thank you so much, and sorry this has happened to you too. I’m on day two and everything has slowed right down, so it’s good to know what might happen over the next couple of days. I had a good old cry yesterday but I think the stress over the trip is stopping me processing anything right now, so I’ll be mindful to keep an eye on myself. Thank you xx

Are you going somewhere that you could easily get good medical attention?

I don’t want to try to scare you, but I landed in hospital for a few days as the result of a natural miscarriage. So I’d always advise being in reach of medical assistance, with appropriate insurance etc.

If the holiday is a full week away, you still have a few days to make a decision. Don’t rush yourself.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s a shit thing.

@RacingAcrossTheSofa oh no that must’ve been so hard for you, I’m sorry. It’s in the Canary Islands and we do have insurance. It’s a family holiday with lots of children so my thought process at the moment is that if this is still ongoing I won’t go - I think if anything happened I would want to be at home or my local hospital, so it isn’t worth the risk. Thank you xx