Preparing for miscarraige - anembryonic pregnancy

[TTC2021PCOS]

We have been ttc for 4 years, one failed IVF of 2 embryo transfer, 2nd cycle of letrozole and managed to finally get that BFP I have always dreamed of.

Fast forward to last week where I had an early tranvaginal ultrasound to check viability and my heart instantly broke as they told me they could only see an empty gestational sac measuring at 7mm and to come back again in 7 days. I was meant to be 6 weeks 2 days.

7 days passed bringing us to yesterday, gestational sac had grown to 17mm but is still empty and it has been concluded as an anembryonic pregnancy - a blighted ovum. We are devastated. I have not stopped crying! We had finally got there and it has been taken away from us so suddenly! We were meant to be 7w2d and they have said the earliest I could be is 6w4d.

I am so scared of whats to come. I have chosen to come home and hope my body does what it needs to do naturally - I also think I am scared to take the medication as that definitely means its over. We have decided to wait a week or 2 before we medically induce the miscarraige.

How do I prepare myself for this 😭

Just had that bad news this morning. Should have been 10+4 and was measuring 8+4. Which was only 2 days growth from the last scan I'd had. I don't think you can emotionally. Physically I'd prepare for the bleeding that is to come. Big pants, decent pads, get some painkillers in incase you need them. Find a hot water bottle. And just give yourself time and grace. This is my 4th time going through this and you just do it because you have to.

So sorry to hear this! It has been a roller coaster for me so I cant even begin to imagine how this is for you!

My spotting has stopped and still getting the odd cramp and twinge but knowing there is nothing there makes it all so much worse

From experience, I’d say definitely get decent pain killers from your GP.
Phone in sick from work, self certify for the 1st week, sick leave for week 2.
Stay home, near the toilet, heavy flow sanitary pads.
If the pain and/or bleeding gets too much for you to manage at home, go to your nearest A&E.

I’ve had several (many) of these, so lots of experience sadly.

The symptoms of pregnancy remained strong, I still had nausea, sore boobs, sense of smell heightened throughout and a positive pregnancy test up to 3 years after all bleeding had ended.
It’s a horrible experience.

Like you, I opted to wait but in the end, it was just utter utter torture still feeling pregnant but with nothing at all at the end of it. I decided to just get on with it, get it over and then take time to recover in my own time, in my own way.

All the very best to you xx

3 weeks of a positive pregnancy test, not 3 years sorry xx