Falling into a dark place :(

[Sunshine8011]

2 weeks ago, I had my 3rd loss in 2 years. Me and my husband want to become parents so much I just feel like I can feel myself slipping into a depression. My first was an early loss at 5 weeks, then a MMC with a blighted ovum and the most recent one has been a chemical, started bleeding just 3 days after my period was due and test remained faint. After going through 3 losses I just can’t shake this pain and I am really struggling to come to terms with it all. We have been referred to a recurrent loss clinic and we are also going to go private to have in depth testing.

Does anyone have any advice for me or any success stories after 3 MCS? I am really struggling atm and none of my friends are even close to starting a family so as much as they have been supportive they can’t really understand my longing for having a child. My husband has been extremely supportive but I do find comfort in talking with people who have gone through similar and have had positive outcomes after loss. Would love to hear from anyone that has been in a similar position xx

So sorry OP. I ‘only’ had one mmc (blighted ovum only discovered at 13 week scan) but remember how all consuming TTC felt in the 11 months it took to fall pg again.

My relative in her 40s had 5 losses but is due any day now. Hopefully the clinic with suggest things like taking low dose aspirin next time.

Sad though your losses are, it’s really encouraging that you have managed to fall pg repeatedly- each time is a fresh new chance and you only need one to stick.

Sending lots of positive vibes.

@Summergarden thank you for your reply! I’m sorry you have had to suffer a loss too, I’m glad you managed to fall pregnant again! Yes, the TTC journey is not for the faint hearted. It is all consuming and agonising every month! Living your life in 2 week cycles and scrutinising every symptom isn’t fun!

Thanks for sharing your relatives story, is there anything she did differently for her successful pregnancy?

Honestly, thank you so much for your well wishes and kind words. It truly means a lot when I am feeling this down xx

I have had 3 in a row and it’s devastating and now I have a child, what helped were pessaries to help sustain the pregnancy, baby aspirin and strangely a very early scan at about 7 weeks (which I really did not want to do, I was so scared) this has an effect in studies as apparently hearing the heartbeat early on, gives a more positive outcome. I don't have a link but you can probably google it. Im so sorry for your losses, it is one of the saddest things to happen. I hope for you that you have a happy outcome soon. For me in all the tests didn't show anything wrong, so I never found out why.

My friend had four miscarriages before being given aspirin and progesterone from a positive test. She then went on to have two beautiful children. I hope the clinic is able to help you.

So sorry for your losses @Sunshine8011 . There are no words to describe the pain and heartache that comes with loss. I had 1 DC, struggled to conceive for 18 months, had 1 chemical, followed by 1 mmc. DD2 is currently 7 weeks old. I had the progesterone pessaries and was under early pregnancy and then pre-term birth clinic. The fear of miscarriage never left me the entire pregnancy.

I did a lot of getting myself in the best possible health before DD2 stuck. Myself and DH, upped our vitamins, drank plenty of water, exercised at least 4 times a week and cut out as many UPFs we I could in our diet. I made sure to engage in as much self care as I could and tried not to put pressure on our ttc journey.

It can be a very dark place after loss, please focus on self care and try to do things you enjoy and not pressure yourself too much. Don't be afraid to seek help if you need it. Good luck.