7 weeks loss

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Hello,

I am … well was … seven weeks pregnant with my husband’s and I’s first baby.

We only found out two weeks ago and I rang my local doctors straight away to book an appointment (they had me booked in for 8.5 weeks) anyways I started bleeding heavily last night and this morning had the dreaded gush and then…..

We’re heartbroken. I just don’t have the strength to cancel my appointment but know that I need to do it but just don’t want to admit it.

Any advice would be really comforting thanks

I'm so sorry you're in this situation.

Assuming youre in the UK, the local service that may be able to help is usually called an Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit. If you keep your doctors appointment, they nay be able to refer you, or you may be able to find the number online.

Sometimes they can offer scans to confirm everything has resolved itself properly, and counselling support.

Miscarriage isn't the same for everyone, but I remember feeling rather worried about how much it would hurt and what I'd experience. I was lucky that an aunt called me when it was explained why I missed visiting a dying grandparent and pragmatically talked me through my questions. Stock up on very big pads, get some paracetamol in you, and dont be scared to call an ambulance if the bleeding or pain gets too too much. At its peak, I found it easiest to just stay sat on the toilet.

There's some really helpful charities for advice and with helplines and online information, particularly:
https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/

Most importantly, remember that nearly nothing you do can cause a miscarriage. Don't blame yourself, and don't feel you have to rush into cancelling your appointment.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. 💐

Second the advice about the early pregnancy unit- I had to go via a+e when it happened to me.

Tell who you want to tell - other women were invaluable in their support, but not always the ones closest to you.

Don't worry about being or doing a certain way/thing- just feel what you need.

Have an old duvet to lie on in case of leakage.

Talk to your doctors - I just needed to go via ask my GP and they wrote me a sick note straight away.

Take care.

I am so so sorry for your loss

People will tell you miscarriages are common - but this is your loss and your heartache 💔

The ache in your chest will quieten down, I didn’t see how I would ever feel anywhere close to better again but day by day you get back to some normality

It’s so hard to not worry about whats ahead (I am in the same boat with it being first pregnancy) don’t be too hard on yourself for thinking about these things but try to bring yourself back to the present moment if you start spiralling (easier said than done!)

Take as long as you need to heal and look after each other 🤍