How long to feel normal?

[LawdAMercy]

I had my first miscarriage. I was 11 weeks pregnant and passed the egg sac around 6am Thursday morning. I went to hospital as had very heavy bleeding, felt like I might faint at one point.

anyway after virtually no sleep that night, I am back today to normal family life. DP supposed to be looking after me but Sod’s Law he woke up with a cold so that’s TLC for me out the window.

i am still bleeding a bit and the occasional cramp. But also feel like I shouldn’t do too much for the time being.

how long to til I feel physically well again? And for the bleeding to stop?

In my experience once you have passed everything (or following surgical management) and are just left bleeding it’s very much like a normal period (mine are crampy anyway) and I’ve just gone about things as normal. It’s the emotional side of thing that has always lasted longer for me.

Edited to add that bleeding has hugely varied from around a week to over a month. Depends how far along and how the miscarriage was treated, although I’ve still bled quite a bit following surgical management in my second trimester.

I hope you’re okay.

You should know when you pass the main part of the pregnancy. For me it was over in a week, including bleeding. Emotions took a bit longer to settle.

I hope you are OK. Go out in nature when you feel ready, it made me feel better xx

Rest as long as your body and mind is telling you to 🤍 DP needs to get up and power through their cold for you

There seems to be so much pressure for women to just “get on with things”

It took me a good 3 weeks to start feeling back to my normal physical health after my miscarriage at a similar stage of pregnancy you. I continually bled/spotted for this entire time as well which was exhausting

sending hope of a quick recovery for you x

I'm so sorry OP. I wanted to give you an accurate answer for me so I looked back at my Clue app data from 2016, when I had my miscarriage. I bled for 16 days, with spotting for about four more, and then had a normal but heavy period which started a week after that.

I would also say that as horrible as the physical side of it was, I found the drop in hormones even worse. It didn't hit for a little while after the miscarriage, maybe three weeks later. I woke up one morning and it was like I'd been plunged into cold water - I just felt so cold and low and awful. Things did gradually get better. But do look after yourself, and know that however you are feeling is ok. x

Thanks everyone.

Hormones are a weird one, I’m used to the crazy postpartum hormones with night sweats, milk coming in etc but this time there is none of that but somehow it doesn’t feel just like a period either.

Reading others stories I can’t believe how much things can vary for each woman and each pregnancy.

can I ask if anyone else asked to keep the foetus (sorry if that’s not the best word) for testing? I said yes, and asked if results would come back, she said probably not.

Looking back she seemed a bit shifty then and I’m left with the feeling she hadn’t given me all the information.