It’s been quite a few years since my last miscarriage. Bobby Dean’s speech on miscarriage really hit home though. There is no support, it’s often not until you go through one that you find out how common it is, the pain is played down, you have no idea how much blood loss is normal.
For one, I went to A and E, bleeding through pads, my clothes, a towel underneath me. A difficult time (to put it mildly) was made worse, by the doctor saying I was no longer pregnant and couldn’t have been pregnant as test came back negative. His reasoning was that I must have been uncertain too as why would I have tested more than once myself in my pregnancy?
For another, I’d had a slight loss of blood, but was hopeful/desperate that might be ok/might be something that could be done/might be twins and one would survive etc. They took bloods and I had to go back for more bloods a couple of days later. I had a phone call saying fsh levels were dropping “beautifully”.
Another one, the pain was excruciating. As I tried to clean myself up, I sobbed my heart out as I “flushed” my baby away. It was the night before my 12 week scan. I soon got a letter saying NHS free medical card for pregnant women (can’t remember the name) shouldn’t be used. GP told me how it’s just a collection of cells.
I remember not knowing when flippant comments would come - e.g. being at a neighbour’s bbq and being asked when I planned on having kids (shortly after I’d miscarried).