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Think i miscarried and feel so sad

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Mumtobe202310 · 20/10/2025 09:27

Hi All,

I recently found out im pregnant. I think i found out while i was under 12 weeks. Further along enough where i got symptoms but also didnt click i could be pregnant.

Recently, i had been through immense stressful periods due to personal problems. It was horrid time. So bad that a foodie like me didn't want to eat anymore. I went hours without eating due to feeling nauseous and anxious and would only eat until i was starving so many hours later. This wasn't every day though. Maybe few days but i always ate its not like i skipped a day of meals etc.

However i thought i just had the flu at the time because i had sore throat and then wasn't able to eat much because i was feeling nauseus. On top of that i had extreme tiredness. I still never thought i was pregnant even though i missed what i thought was 2 months of period.

It didnt register in my head!

One day it did and i took a test and it was positive and the next morning same thing, positive. Both were dark lines.

So, after that i think out of happiness i started eating as much as i could. Whatever i could stomach.

However, on 2 occassions i had a kebab wrap from outside and another time i had chicken burger meal with chips and some of the sauces they give you know the chilli sauce in a little container with a little mayo.

Also, before knowing i was pregnant, i had quite a lot of lucozade and caffeine as i was severely tired. I was prescribed iron tablets due to my deficiency too.

Few days later, i saw some discharge mixed with blood and went early pregnancy assessment unit. They saw me and my test was positive there too. That day they had a sonographer available and she done abdo scan to see how far along i was. She said deffo under 12 weeks. Her saying this does it not mean they saw a foetus? Also they went through my history and booked me for a transvaginal scan coming up tuesday. They said since it is little blood to go home and monitor and if it gets heavy come back.

Next morning i woke up to pee and on period pad which i used to monitor blood it was just patched of blood like period ones. I was so upset and cried and went to bed again but crying silently. Then a few minutes later i had abdo pain and it wss getting worse. After half an hour when i couldn't take it anymore i told my husband to take me toilet and he did. He was like im waiting outside. I then peed and was dripping blood and then passed the biggest blood clot in my life and called my husband quick and he came and suddenly my head dropped. I fainted. I woke up with the most panicked feeling and disoriented because this id how i wake up after fainting. Then my husband called ambulance and they took me hospital and they saw my pee in toilet bowl and said its a lot of blood.

The hospital couldnt say anything. They just said they could do a speculum check to see whether cervix was open or closed but i refused due to sheer fear at the time and said i would like to wait for the transvaginal scan on tuesday. They couldnt tell me if i miscarried or not.
I came home and yesterday night around 1am i felt same kind of size clot pass but was too scared to go toilet. So went morning. And i was shook. It looked like what was a foetus...i was too scared to look further. But it was same feeling when i passed the clot the day i went by ambulance after fainting. It deffo did not look like a blood clot this one. Since yesterday my bleeding is lighter.

I genuinely believe i miscarried.
However, i am feeling extremely guilty.
Did is miscarry because of the kebab wrap and the chicken burger and chips with the sauce you get in these burger places or did i miscarry aswell because of all the stress and not eating as much? What im asking is did i cause this?

I feel so upset i cannot explain.

OP posts:
Finsburyfancy · 20/10/2025 12:20

None of the things you have mentioned would cause a miscarriage, so pleased don't blame yourself. You can eat most food absolutely fine in pregnancy, and if you go a few hours without food that is also fine. Iron tablets are often prescribed. Upsettingly it probably just wasn't a viable pregnancy - 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage so the odds are pretty high. But it wasn't because of something you did or didn't do.

Lalalala77 · 20/10/2025 20:00

I’m so sorry you’ve gone through that. Please don’t think anything you did caused a miscarriage, as @Finsburyfancy mentioned - miscarriage is unfortunately quite common and happens to healthy people doing everything by the book, sometimes it’s just not a viable embryo.
Please take care of yourself over the next few weeks, it’s a horrible and shocking thing to go through. I hope you’re ok.

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