3rd consecutive miscarriage, age 42, not keen husband

[Sooty19831]

Have a 4yo daughter so very lucky just had no luck keeping pregnancy over last couple of years with most recent loss being at 9 weeks a couple of weeks ago and had a d&c. If my husband was completely unboard I would def try one more time but he’s not and he has been honest in saying he isn’t as keen as me for second due to our ages (he’s 45 soon) and possible complications and what life would look like in 10-15 years. I’m waiting to see if there’s a reason why they keep happening and know there may never be an answer. Also his mum is dying so I feel I can’t put more pressure on him. Time for me to move on?

I am sorry for your losses.

Older parents have higher (if only slightly) risk of child with special needs.

You both need to be on board to have another child

You're risk of miscarrying increases with age. I'm sorry but the odds are not in your favour. I'm sure lots of people will tell you they naturally conceived at age 45 but factually speaking they are the exception not the rule. I'm sorry for your losses.

Im sorry for your losses, unfortunately both parents need to be on board so if hes not keen then yes its time to move on.

It is very easy for others to say move on if your husband isn’t keen. My husband isn’t keen and I’ve struggled to move on. Very difficult. Hand hold

@Clangershome that is the terminology the OP has used. None of us are saying it is easy

No not easy for sure. He has said the same thing after each one so as much as I am really struggling to accept this and move on I know he’s not wrong and either am I for wanting to continue but somehow seeing this in words written down is helping. He’s given it a go for me (more than him) more than once so it’s time for me to listen to him and think get some support from a counsellor. Thanks for commenting everyone.