3rd miscarriage between 8-11 weeks - where do I go from here?

[Hopingforrainbow2025]

I’ve just found out I have had another MMC.
My first loss was at 11.2 weeks and that was due to Turner’s syndrome. Then I had a loss at 9.5 weeks -no answers.
Third loss confirmed, MMC at 9.5 weeks (passed 9.2)

I wanted to ask if anyone had very similar gestations and got an answer as to why it keeps happening. I know the first always would have happened due to abnormality but the timings of the last two feel like it’s linked to placenta / maybe blood supply?
I will be referred for investigations but I also want to pursue private tests to work out what has happened.
Any expierences welcome please x

I had three losses in a row. Two were MMCs at nine weeks and one ‘regular’ miscarriage at five weeks. No causes were found for us. We were just told it was bad luck. The third pregnancy was from an IVF round that we had hoping it would give us some answers re the miscarriages.

My next pregnancy resulted in my daughter. For this one I was on progesterone from 3dpo and high dose vitamin D (which I was apparently severely deficient in).

I’m so sorry for your losses. It’s such a horrible thing to keep experiencing :( I hope you get a sticky bean soon.

Oh and low dose aspirin. Forgot I was told to take that too.

@Hopingforrainbow2025 I’m so sorry for what you are going through. I know how hard it is. After I lost 3 babies at about 11 weeks, I was referred to the recurrent miscarriage unit at the hospital. They completed tests to find out what was happening and they found no reason as to why, just said it was bad luck.
I then had to make appointments with them as soon as I found out I was pregnant where they started me on daily heparin injections and progesterone suppositories for the duration of my pregnancies. I lost a 4th before going full term with my 5th baby. I then lost 2 more before having my 8th pregnancy be successful.I now have two fantastic teenagers.
I know it’s hard, I found it got harder to try again each time and I still think about my babies now but I’m so grateful I didn’t give up trying at the time.
I don’t have any advice to give you but just wanted you to know that you are not alone in this. X

I'm so sorry for your losses. I had a miscarriage around 7 weeks in between my children. Then in fairly quick succession a mc in feb 2024 at 9 weeks, a late miscarriage at 16 weeks in August 2024, then an early mc in February this year. I had testing and no cause identified but recommended progesterone from positive test and aspirin. I'm now 22 weeks. I really hope you get some answers and your rainbow baby soon x

@TheBirdintheCave i am sorry for your losses and thank you for sharing. I have had a couple of things tested and Vit D wasnt issue in my case. I had progesterone but didn’t change anything as I guess if baby is abnormal it won’ so that might have been the issue. It just feels hard to believe it’s bad luck when it’s 3 times out of 3. Scared to role the dice again without any answers x

I had three miscarriages between 8 and 12 weeks between my two children, they never found a reason. One of them was a partial molar pregnancy but that was down to bad luck too. My DD is grown up now but I still get teary thinking about what I went through before she came along. If you're not in a baby loss support group, I would recommend you join one. It's so hard and you don't really understand unless you've been through it. I'm sorry it's happening to you but there is hope. Take good care.

@lovechocolate thank you for sharing and so sorry to hear about how much loss you have expierenced.
i do feel like I might have a blood clotting issue as I have seen a lot of people with losses between 8-12 weeks finding out they have a blood clotting issue. It’s still so hard tho if because I know there may not be a reason.
It just feels hard to accept some people could have 5 kids and losses and others have multiple losses before they can have a baby.

@Lemonyfire congrats on your current pregnancy. It’s so tough to have to go through all of that though before hand I know the anxiety is awful. Right now I can’t even think about what my anxiety might be like in a 4th pregnancy.
I was on progesterone this time. I think I do want testing regarding blood clotting as I know there is medication they would recommend and maybe that is what will work.

@thedevilsavocado thank you. I’m glad you have your rainbow now but it feels so cruel why do we have to have so much loss in a row. The ‘why’s’ drive me insane daily.
I am in some WhatsApp groups but feels so hard each time I have a loss then I’m back into the ttc group and this time I’m too scared to try without answers

I had similar all at the same gestation. I ended up booking a private appointment with Raj Rai at St Mary’s for tests. One of my embryos was tested and found to have a trisomy, and given my age (late 30s) he thought it was likely that I was just experiencing random chromosomal abnormalities repeatedly, and I suspect this is probably right. He did find something a bit unusual in my blood clotting and advised that in future pregnancies I take low dose aspirin (i think the advice was two pills) daily from getting a positive pregnancy test until the end of the first trimester. I didn’t have any more pregnancies, or maybe just a couple that ended very very early. But it was useful to take a bit of control.

I have just had my second (late) miscarriage and I emailed a midwife from Tommys explaining everything about my losses. They replied the next day with lots of suggestions for tests and explained what their own specialist clinics would be able to do if I wanted to be referred there instead.

I hope you get some support.

It is hard and does seem so unfair when you are going through it@Hopingforrainbow2025 I also felt scared throughout my whole pregnancy with both children so didn’t get to enjoy being pregnant- that didn’t seem fair either. Do take time to grieve each loss, you and your partner. I didn’t, I focussed on the next pregnancy as a way to deal with it. My grief then came out years later and I hadn’t realised how much it had impacted me or my husband until then. Have you asked for a referral to a recurrent miscarriage unit? They will do a whole host of tests which may put your mind at some rest if you know what you are dealing with. What the doctors can do to help you now is amazing x

I'm so sorry for what you're going through.

I have had 4 missed miscarriages, all between 8-11 weeks. After the 3rd I was referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic, had heaps of tests done which all came back normal. I had surgical management and had the baby's tissue tested which came back as having trisomy 15. From this me and my partner also had karotyping done. Turns out I have not one, but 2 chromosome abnormalities (I'm "exotic" as the doctor at the fetal medicine unit put it the other day!). Before those results came back I found out I was pregnant for the 4th time which I also had surgical management and genetic testing done on, and that came back as triploidy (3 of all chromosomes instead of 2).

My genetic issues are totally unrelated to both losses 3 and 4. We'll never know if they caused losses 1 or 2. So there's a mixture for me of being at higher risk of miscarriage but also being just downright unlucky to also have the 2 spontaneous genetic issues on 3rd and 4th pregnancy.

As a result of this, I qualify for IVF on the NHS with pre genetic testing. However before the referral went through I found out I was pregnant again and am now 17 weeks with pregnancy no5 having done absolutely nothing different and no interventions. Praying it sticks.

I hope you're able to get support and some answers. I know for me that, whilst my genetic issues come with additional risk, having some knowledge was super helpful and has helped me process what's happened xx

sorry for your losses.

have you been checked for coeliac disease? I think you can even order the tests online now.
undiagnosed coeliac can cause infertility and miscarriages

@Hopingforrainbow2025 I ve had two miscarriages and then took ages to conceive the first which eventually came via Ivf

key findings from the ivf centre:

• progesterone and baby aspirin (I only took the former), but you need doctor ‘s support on this
• lots and lots of protein . IVF doctor made me take 2 litres of full fat milk plus protein powder from the minute we started IVF all the way to 3 months. I sorted out the protein plus an anti inflammatory diet and for my second I got pregnant naturally and without support and carried full term

you have nothing to lose if you follow the above wishing you the best xxx

@lovechocolate

I feel like I’ve done the same tbh over the last 18 months all I’ve cared about is getting pregnant again and I never spoke to anyone about the first time or grieved well. I can already foresee what impact this is going to have one me down the line as I feel like it’s going to make me such an anxious parent (if I ever become one).
I am now speaking about my losses and I will be referred to tommys. No specialists locally so I will most likely get referred to tommys clinics a few hours away. I’m just inpatient like everytime this happens I don’t want to wait months to be seen :(

@Moosey898

I am glad to hear you are currently pregnant and hope the best for you. But that must have been so hard.
I have thought through different possibilities and my brain has been thinking what if it’s a genetic thing. The issue is there is no easy fix, like you said they may turn around and say IVF with testing or you have to keep trying and finally have luck. Feels like both those journeys are risky and long and it’s unfair.
I think tommys will also do that testing for us if this one comes back as abnormal as already had one confirmed.

@BrentfordForever thank you for sharing.
I feel like whatever happens next time I do want to have aspirin. I was paying for progesterone privately so would again.
the protein is interesting. Can I ask what their theory/ why this helps?
i have tried a feel anti inflammatory and other diets whilst I was ttc but what happened is I would lose weight and I think this would make my changes worst so I probably need to find a way to up my protein and my calories but also eat well.

@butterdish93

thank you. In the past doctors wanted to rule that out as I was becoming anemic randomly. This was like 10 years ago.
they looked for markers in blood tests etc and said no I don’t have it.
Hopefully if I have blood tests again I can double check this x

@Emilygilmoreshandbag thank you for sharing. I did see someone privately but I was pregnant at the time so they couldn’t test for blood clotting etc but I feel like that might be the way to go.
i find it confusing as my private doctor said aspirin (baby aspirin) fhat people buy won’t do anything if you have an actual blood clotting issue because it is not enough. I have heard others recently say the same but then different specialists say to take it. All so confusing but I feel like I will have tests to see what can actually be done.

Hey @Hopingforrainbow2025 - yes ofc go for the baby aspirin all I said is it’s best to be monitored 🙂

protein is related purely with egg quality
your loses could be related to poor quality which according to my clinic is easily fixable with high protein

when I then TTCd naturally my protein was sky high and along with specific diet (basically zero sugar, olives , salmon and good quality chicken/beef) I got pregnant in the first month after years of agony

it’s an easy enough step to implement perhaps worth a try

another reason would also be very strong immune but also poor sperm quality (latter treated with antibiotics), but perhaps you can look into these when the above are explored so you don’t stress yourself out

Re the baby aspirin- the doctor told me that one pill wasn’t enough but two was recommended. If course , it won’t help if your embryo has a severe abnormality like mine did but if it’s about clotting then it may help.

@Emilygilmoreshandbag I have started to read a lot about blood clotting over the last fe days and I never realised how many women end up being diagnosed. I am planning on having the test asap. I read a study that said 90% of pregnancies when you have APS end in loss and often after seeing good heartbeats which is my case so I’m hopeful this could be an answer

Yeah, I went down a rabbit hole on that when I was in the middle of it all. I think that there are some subsets of women (particular ethnicities) who are more likely to have those conditions, and if you are trying for your first child perhaps it is more likely to be an undiagnosed factor. There can also be some less obvious clotting issues that can come into play- a test I had was for “raised clot strength” which apparently I have and is the reason for the aspirin recommendation. But no APS or lupus etc.
Sometimes it is just bad luck though. I do have a number of friends who had a few miscarriages after 8 weeks or so who did go on to have children and it was just one of those things without real explanation and likely just random abnormalities. Awful when you are going through it.