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Just struggling with loss

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Roxyford · 26/07/2025 10:04

Hi sorry to bother everyone I'm just at a loss, exhausted and hurting and don't know where to turn.
I'm 37 I have 3 children my youngest is 5.
I had a miscarriage back in march/April time of this year I've never ever had one before and never had any complications etc so that was a massive shock to me. I'm now currently 9 weeks pregnant I had an early scan and we saw there was a baby and a heart beat.
I wasn't feeling well a couple of days ago so went to a&e and ended up getting sent for another scan and they said unfortunately the babies heart beat has stopped.
I have to have another scan in 10 days I'm just in total shock I can't stop crying and I'm beating myself up because I have been so stressed.
I feel like I've let my partner down and am just blaming myself and finding this all hard.
I haven't even really had any cramping or bleeding I just felt unwell.
I don't really know what I'm asking of anyone I just wanted to talk about it so thank you for anyone that has read this x

OP posts:
bk1981 · 26/07/2025 19:17

I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. I have also just had my second loss and feel like I have let everyone down in not keeping my baby safe. Please be kind to yourself.

LilacBow45 · 26/07/2025 19:32

I’m so sorry, I had my first loss end of May. Please remember most losses before 12 weeks are usually a chromosomal issue, egg/sperm quality and nothing you have influenced or could’ve prevented. It’s hard to believe that I know but it’s helped me to process that it wasn’t my fault. And it’s not yours either 💜

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