Lost my little boy and ttc again

[Harleyquinn69]

Hi all

havent been on a forum for a very long time probably 10 years actually.

I was expecting a little boy an unfortunately went into early labor and he’s passed on. He was before 24 weeks but I have a baby loss certificate and he had a little funeral and his ashes are now home with me. I know everyone is different but I’m craving a baby. I’ve had two periods since losing him so actually haven’t really been delayed in cycles which is a positive thing I’m guessing?

im trying to track to know I am ovulating but also trying to not becomes obsessed which becomes very hard. If I’m honest every time I have come on so be it only twice its sending me head so far west. It’s a reminder that I lost him and what happened when I did I know another baby won’t replace him but I think it’ll help my heart heal and give me a little bit of a purpose. My other kids are upset and keep asking to they don’t understand properly if I’ll have another baby.

the doctors haven’t advised me that I can’t and to be honest haven’t been in contact since I was discharged from hospital.

my and my partner are naturally active at dtd not stressing to do it to catch we just do it in general so Im just being inpatient I know ttc can take a while for people but it hasn’t ever before and now I’ve got it into my head it won’t ever happen again!

I don’t really no the purpose of this post at this point I know I’m waffling but I’m just asking has anyone any success story’s after having a second trimester loss I was 19 weeks.

I have had a loss before but was very early compared to this I have a cupboard full of baby things and I’ve tried to hide them as it’s hard to see daily. Ahhh I’m sorry for waffling and appreciate anyone who has listened.

thank you 🫶🏼

OP sorry for your loss

I lost a baby in the third trimester and I know how consuming the need for another baby can be but the likelihood is everything will be fine. I lost a baby at 39 weeks then had a miscarriage later in the year and it took me another year to fall pregnant but it did happen for us.

I don't know how long you've been TTC and you can seek medical advice if you're genuinely worried.

Hi

im probably more paranoid then actually worried im pretty calm until around 8dpo and then i start getting my hopes up and AF comes, i am really sorry to hear about your losses and appreciate you saying you understand how I feel.
it’s only actually been two cycles since I lost him and I do keep reading online it can take up to a year for people to conceive I guess because I’ve always been really lucky and caught within a couple months I expected it to be easy again x

Sorry for your loss. I lost DS at similar time frame 20+ years ago, and I still feel his loss now.

However I did successfully have more children. The first pregnancy was pretty stressful as you're constantly afraid, but the next was lovely as I was able to feel calmer. Both healthy strapping lads now.

It's hard not to focus and over analyse everything, I hope it feels calmer over time. Thinking of you

Thank you for your kind and positive words xx

I conceived my first child really easily and then lost her and her second was harder. I know it feels like a long time but two cycles is not that long in medical terms and your body and mind have been through so much. Be patient with yourself OP.

I found the Sands forum very helpful when TTC as I was speaking with others who had had a loss