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I lost our baby yesterday at 13 weeks

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heartbrokenmammy · 07/07/2025 07:41

I'm devastated. I don't know what to do with myself.

I was 13 weeks and 5 days, I started bleeding heavily in the morning, went to hospital, they did two internal examinations and I was passing a lot of clots and what they thought was tissue and told me I was actively miscarrying. They were going to send me home with some painkillers with instructions to come back if my pain became unmanageable or I had any really heavy bleeding. My husband went to the in hospital pharmacy to collect my painkillers and while he was gone I went to the toilet and my baby was born into my hands. A perfect, tiny baby boy. He would've been my fourth child so I understand it seems selfish as some people have never had children and suffered many losses but I am so sad.
The nurse with me was wonderful, she hugged me whilst it was all happening and another nurse came to clip the little cord and I passed the placenta etc so no worries about anything left behind. My pain has stopped and I'm only bleeding a bit now.

It all happened so fast, this time yesterday morning I was pregnant and now I'm not anymore. I don't know what to do with myself. I still have to be a mum to my other children and I just want everything to stop.

We brought him home and we are going to bury him with my mum's ashes at her tree, she died a couple of years ago. So I know he won't be on his own but I can't bear the thought of it. I am so tired and shaky I can't even function. I just want to lie in bed and I can't. My husband is heartbroken and seeing him like that is so hard. I know we can try again but I just want my baby back inside where he is safe, it all feels so wrong.

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Iamnotalemming · 07/07/2025 07:44

I'm sorry for your loss. There are no wrong feelings here. Be kind to yourself and take your time. It is a horrible shock.

Branleuse · 07/07/2025 07:45

Ahh im.so sorry lovely. Thats really hard.
If you need to lie in bed then do it. You and your lovely family just remember you have each other, and you are going to honour and remember this little boy when you are able to.
Take care xx

fourelementary · 07/07/2025 07:46

Why can’t you lie in bed today? Surely someone can help out with the kids. You’ve had a huge shock, a horrible experience and now you need to rest and take care of yourself to recover. So sorry for the loss of your wee boy. Love to you all.

mommaboo · 07/07/2025 07:50

I am truly so sorry for the loss of your little boy. I understand how devastating it is.

babies don’t replace babies, this little boy of yours holds a special place in your family, and in your heart. What you’ve experienced will always stay with you.

Did the nurses that cared for you and your baby discuss access to support if you needed? (Such as Tommy's, etc)

I’m sending a huge hug and hand hold your way. Flowers

Shelly1973ish · 07/07/2025 08:29

I sadly can very much relate...

So very sorry for your loss Flowers

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