Late miscarriage; what words do you use?

[MrsS11]

I had a late miscarriage last year; we found out that our daughter had died during our routine 20 week scan. I gave birth to her 2 days later, easily the hardest thing I've ever had to do. It felt like a birth, recovery felt like birth, 6 weeks of lochia, my milk came in, I was carrying baby weight but no baby. At the time I was very public about it because we had been public about the pregnancy, announcing it after 12 weeks like everyone does and telling our older kids (who obviously tell everyone everything!). So we also announced her birth and death, and support from friends and family was amazing. However, it's coming up to a year now and I want to learn to talk about it as a part of my story; I'm in a new job, meeting new people and also pregnant again. I find it so hard to succinctly describe what happened; it wasn't technically a stillbirth because i wasn't 24 weeks yet. Miscarriage feels like completely the wrong word. Any words of wisdom?

I'm sorry for your loss. I've experienced miscarriages and yours sounds like so much more. I think I'd say I lost my baby rather than say miscarriage, then say she came early if pushed. I know others don't necessarily like that phrase but to me it seems more substantial than miscarriage.

I think I would say I have 2 children, one born too soon and sadly not with us.

sorry for your loss x

So sorry you lost her. I agree with the above poster - I would say I lost my baby.

I lost a baby you see, and then I had two miscarriages.

I think you should use whatever words your heart tells you too.

This is not something anyone else should or could police you on

I lost at 20 weeks too. I'm sorry you went through that.
I call it a stillbirth, or a very late loss. I had to go through hours of labour to bring my baby into the world. A stillbirth feels like a more appropriate description for me.

Best of luck with your pregnancy. Xx