Mental health at all time low after mc

[Amy101529]

hi everyone,

I really don’t have anyone to talk to. No friends and family live away and I can’t really talk to them. I do have a wonderful husband and three children who are absolutely everything. They are my reason for carrying on but today I’ve hit an all time low. Decided to test today as I’m ttc after a loss in February. Negative. I was so sure this month too.. I had all these symptoms which are now obviously nothing. I held out till 12dpo and its negative. With my baby I lost we literally conceived right away and now I’m on attempt 3 and nothing and I’ve hit all the fertile dates not sure what else I could’ve done?. I’m also 37 in a few days and feel like this won’t happen again for me. Of course I’m so grateful for my children I do have but my heart just feels broken and all I want is to be pregnant again. I’m struggling so badly I’ve even thought about giving up completely on everything but of course I can’t do that. Why does everything feel so hard after a mc? I feel like there’s something wrong with me and I won’t conceive again. Sorry I just needed to rant because I’m keeping it all inside and just keep crying and crying. I honestly don’t want to do anything and just feel empty.

Sorry I may not be much help with this however, have you spoken to your husband about your feelings? It may also help to look into counselling too? I am just going through my first miscarriage and although my situation is different to yours I just feel so broken too and can’t stop crying. I have seen some people recommend a few books which I have ordered one was it starts with an egg. I really hated the process of Ttc also and am dreading having to start all over again after loosing our baby. There’s definitely nothing wrong with you and I’m sure you will conceive again although I don’t say all the cliche stuff like when the timings right as none if it helps!!!!!
I hope you start to feel better soon & sorry I don’t have more help to offer x

Hi sorry to hear you’re going through this too. It’s just the most awful heartbreaking experience. I honestly don’t think I’ll ever be the same again and have a lot of guilt too. I do have that book and have been trying really hard since march to get pregnant but no luck yet. I’m a little worried as I got pregnant four times before on either first or second try so this is attempt 3 and my period arrived. It truly sucks and you start to worry something is wrong. I’m almost 37 so I feel times running out for me. I’m trying to focus on other things in the hope that it does happen soon. Best of luck to you too. My husband knows I’m very depressed and I think he is worried so I try not to talk to him too much about it. He has a lot on his plate too and I’m scared to overwhelm him.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, my miscarriage was absolutely the saddest time in my life but it did get easier with time, though I don't think it ever goes away. Something that was a big comfort to me was listening to 'The Worst Girl Gang Ever' podcasts, they made me feel much less alone, and there's a whole community of support there. Crossing my fingers that next month is your month.

Thank you! Not sure what else I can do but keep trying I guess. We just got a puppy too and she’s keeping me busy but I do burst into tears a lot still. I’m up a lot with the puppy and I’m tired and of course still thinking about my baby etc. it’s very difficult 😣 I really hope that I get some good news eventually. Sorry to hear you’ve been through the same thing and I hope you have been successful in trying again if that’s what you wanted ♥️

Just thought I’d update:

I had another long cycle and finally ovulated around cycle day 33/34 and I’m pregnant! It’s very early so I’m super anxious and trying not to keep testing and comparing lines. Praying this is a healthy pregnancy ♥️ 🙏

Congratulations, such lovely news. There's every chance it is a healthy pregnancy but normal to feel anxious. Sending lots of good luck your way x